Black People : Dominate Personalities.

Discussion in 'Black People Open Forum' started by BallOfConfusion, May 14, 2008.

  1. BallOfConfusion

    BallOfConfusion Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Mar 23, 2006
    Messages:
    164
    Likes Received:
    1
    Ratings:
    +1
    I am naturally a very shy person. But the older I get, the more my personalty shine(or I just don't dwell on people the shy one so much). My mood changes depending on what environment I'm in. I've noticed that when I get around someone who has a very dominate personalities, I fall back a lot. Honestly I fall back cause I'm a lil intimated but also cause I like to watch them. These are those people that command the attention of every person in the room, every time they walk in. I'm intimated but at the same time I admire them.
    So my real concerns, come in the work field. I'll be graduating soon, and I'm very afraid that my meekness and laid back attitude will hurt me in getting the job that I want. I've never been a fighter, I've never been competitive, but I know I want a good job. I don't know what to do. I can't change my personalty.
     
  2. PurpleMoons

    PurpleMoons Administrator STAFF

    Country:
    United States
    Joined:
    Apr 22, 2003
    Messages:
    9,146
    Likes Received:
    1,097
    Gender:
    Female
    Ratings:
    +1,102
    Baby, you have the power to change anything you want to change.

    Especially when that change is personal. I know being timid
    feels like a hinder, but tell me this, are you shy around family
    and friends as well. If not, this is proof that you can be assertive.

    Sometimes you just got to put yourself out there. Take your chance at
    shining in the spotlight. Try small steps first. for instance, in school
    share your oppinion where needed a little more. Just blurt it out.
    You don't have to share a whole lot. Just enough to be heard.
    Gradually with time, share a little more. When we aren't sure how
    we will be received, when tend to fall back. But with time,
    as we get more familiar with our surroundings, we open up a little more.
    In other words, with practice it will come more naturally for you.

    There's this method which many entertainers use. They adopt an alter ego.
    They give this alter ego a name. This alter ego is everything they
    believe their not. They become this person whenever they need the boost.
    I think the singer Beyonce becomes someone named sasha everytime
    she performs on stage. She really rather a shy gurl too. You can sort of
    tell when doing interviews. Adopt an alter ego and see how that works for you.
    It will be challenging, but with practice you will be well on your way.

    I hope this helps you some. Fear is one of the greatest obstacles that
    keeps us from being great. Face that fear a little at a time and soon it
    won't be a problem at all.

    Good Luck!:love:

    :heart:
     
  3. thePreacher

    thePreacher Banned MEMBER

    Joined:
    Dec 2, 2007
    Messages:
    1,227
    Likes Received:
    815
    Occupation:
    Agent Of Change
    Location:
    Dogville, USA
    Ratings:
    +815
    It is okay to be you. Our world has far too many "take charge of the situation" personalities as it is. Dick Cheney is a perfect example of that type of person. it is true that our world rewards such people with good jobs and big money. But, there is no reason to admire them. They are not better than you. They are just different people with different priorities.
     
  4. jamesfrmphilly

    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

    Country:
    United States
    Joined:
    Jun 18, 2004
    Messages:
    32,008
    Likes Received:
    11,483
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    retired computer geek
    Location:
    north philly ghetto
    Ratings:
    +13,745
    what job do you want?
     
  5. BallOfConfusion

    BallOfConfusion Well-Known Member MEMBER

    Joined:
    Mar 23, 2006
    Messages:
    164
    Likes Received:
    1
    Ratings:
    +1

    Great Advice from everyone thanks, I'll try my hardest to apply it to my life. I'm going for degree in Graphic Design. So I hope that when I graduate I can get a job designing logo's, type design, ad's, pretty much any kind of commercial art. Sometimes I hope that my work will speak for itself, but I realize I also have to sell my skills to the client.
     
  6. jamesfrmphilly

    jamesfrmphilly going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

    Country:
    United States
    Joined:
    Jun 18, 2004
    Messages:
    32,008
    Likes Received:
    11,483
    Gender:
    Male
    Occupation:
    retired computer geek
    Location:
    north philly ghetto
    Ratings:
    +13,745
    good luck kid.....

    both things are true. your work will speak and you have to sell yourself.

    it's a skill like anything else. there are classes and books on how to sell yourself.
    interviewing is a skill. you study it. you learn it and you practice it.

    make sure your portfolio shines. that is also a skill that you can learn and perfect.
    all of these things are skills that you can acquire.

    try to get an intern job in a shop. this will get you some experience.


    don't worry. just go out and do your homework.
     
Loading...