In light of the recent happenings between Chris Brown and Rhianna, I think we need to discuss this. In other sites, people have treated this like the abortion debate. Taking one side or the other, no in between. I would like to take a different tact: 1. What is a toxic relationship? How do you recognize it and get out? 2. Why do so many on both sides justify staying in them? I ask this because brothers are victims of DV, but we dont talk, at all! 3. In todays PC society, are brothers ever asllowed to defend themselves? Ex. Brother stayed in a relationship for over two years. Largely, because it was the greatest sex ever, and she gave it up whenever he even thought about it. She had severe PMS. And the arguments and potention for and actual violence was obviously escalating. All logic said, this was a tragedy waiting to happen......... Lets talk and change the names if necessary. Just to protect the innocent.