Bringing you the 411 on the signs of a potential abusive partner! This topic is a very sensitive one. As I type, there will be atleast 4 women who will die everyday from domestic abuse. I want my young sisters to be able to recognize the signs of an abusive partner. I want my sister who are in an abusive relationship to know that there is help out there. No one should ever be treated with such cruelty! Many sisters stay in abusive relationships because they love the person that abuses them. They believe that their partner will change, but the truth is, no one who doesn't want to change will do so. If you love that person, the best thing you can do is get help. Domestic violences affect everyone! It affects your family, your children, and your friends. If you are in an abusive relationship and you want out, there are many hot lines for you to call. Never ever tell your partner that you are planning to leave. You must leave at a time when he is not home or when ever it is safe to do so. Don't tell your mate where you are. It can bring worst harm to you, friends, family, and or the children that you are staying with. here are a few signs to look for when dating: A Push For Quick Involvement: pressured for exclusive commitment almost immediately. Jealousy: Excessively prossesive. Calls constantly, don't want you to work because you might meet someone, checks mileage on your car. Controlling: Interrogates you intensely (especially if you are late.) Unrealistic: Expects you to be the perfect mate and meets his every need. Isolation: Tries to cut you off from friends and family. Blames others for problems or mistakes. Hypersensitivity: Is easily insulted and cruel to animals and children. Kills or punches animals. Epects children to do things far beyond their ability. "Playful" Use Of Force During Sex: Enjoys throwing you down or holding you against your will. /verbal Abuse: Constantly criticizes you or say blantanly cruel, hurtful things. Also involves sleep depriviation. Rigid Sex Roles: Expects you to serve, obey and remain home. Sudden Mood Swings: Switches from sweetly loving to explosively violent in a matter of minutes. Past Batteries: Make statements like, "I'll break you neck," and then dismisses them with,"everybody talks that way," or "I didn't really mean it." Take notes to these signs. If your are acquainted with someone who is showing some of these traits, Please use extreme caution when deciding whether or not to commit to these people. And sisters who are already caught up in it, Please get out of that life threatening situation. I will be posting some links where you can get help! You may feel like you can't make it without them, but how do you know, if you haven't tried yet? Get Help! You don't have to do it alone!