Black Relationships : Domestic Violence: Men as Victims


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Nov 5, 2002
Metro Atlanta
Women are given permission to hit, slap or punch men. Society is more apt to take a lighter view of domestic violence when the female is violent and controlling. We look down on men who are aggressive to women, but women being aggressive to men is acceptable.

Domestic violence laws protect mainly women. Even when there is evidence of a woman being violent, most of the time the police are reluctant to arrest her. Sometimes the male is the one arrested. If the woman lies, there is little or no punishment for perjury. The legal system adds to the misery of the abuse. There are shelters for battered women, but when a man calls an abuse hotline, he is laughed at or not assisted at all.

What are your views on men as victims of domestic violence?

Suprisingly enough the number of abused men has risen but they are more reluctant to report it. I don't think women are given permission to hit, slap or punch-they just take for granted that as women they won't be hit, slapped or punched back.
I don't think it's right for either sex to be violent and I'm also enough of a humanist (in addition to being a feminist) to believe that if a woman is man enough to hit a man she better be man enough to be ready to be hit back.

Growing up I always heard the phrase that "only cowards hit women"...
men who hit women were frowned upon and thought of as bullies and "less than a man"

I agree with your opinion on society's outlook in regard to the male/female domestic vilolence situation...most people are shocked/against men hitting/abusing women, but turn a blind eye to women hitting/abusing my way of thinking I would say it stems from the knowledge that men are on the whole, physically stronger than women so therefore have the upper hand and in doing so do not need protection...but I personally have seen the type of women who yell and scream and slap their spouses to get their attention or to demand something from them...and not once have I seen a man hit a woman for doing so...if only these women could sit back and take a look at themselves while acting this way I'm sure they would rethink thier actions....

I am against violence in any form, but I also think that if these type of women are going to persist in this type of behaviour persistently, then they must expect retaliation in some shape or form...


well said!!:)

there is also..
"brains over brawn" and "violence begets violence"
which would also pertain to this topic...

personally I think it looks terrible to see a woman yelling like a banshee and abusing her man out in public for all to see...for me it makes her less of a woman...not to mention her self respect...



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