Black Poetry : Domestic Abuse Awareness.....

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  1. N2urSoul

    N2urSoul Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    October is ..... Domestic Abuse Awareness month ....


    Wasn't this a safe place -

    When we met over a year ago
    he said I was special ...
    his number one
    his all
    but just six months later
    we've argued
    fussed and said things
    neither of us mean

    but the bruises remind you
    who the hell you are
    when you just can't seem
    to remember today ...

    After eight months I lived in exile

    Thrown into a wall and **** near
    choked to death - I couldn't believe
    it was real -- after all ...
    he said that
    he loved me

    I've went to bed with doubt
    borrowing the eyes of God
    to see inside the holes of
    tomorrow

    This morning I wear this black eye
    without question -
    he must be sorry when he looks
    back at me...

    so here I am hiding in what I thought
    was this "safe place"
    blaming myself
    spitting up all of the
    abusive ********
    from his performance
    that shows up every night

    I'm a warrior without pain
    for my family
    for my children
    ... cast as a pathetic character
    in the story's final frame
    -- dead, pretending to live
    and waiting for the opinion of
    others before I can leave

    8 months and in exile
    ... with other mothers
    .... .... with other sistahs
    hiding in circles of social workers
    we are women in exile from ourselves

    For my life --- to save ---

    I forgive him
    but I will never forget....





    2002 N2urSoul
     
  2. N2urSoul

    N2urSoul Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Thank you Rykah ....

    You are too right .... we should be our sistah's keeper .... but only to an extent .... sometimes their unwillingness to get out of these types of abusive/violent relationships can harbor danger for those of us who try to be the "friend" who is assisting.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject!!
     
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    n2.


    1st things 1st... it is oh-so good to read you once more
    my sista in scribe. :) as always your words are chosen
    well & they make me wanna keep on readin'&readin'.
    the situation of which you speak... unfortunate-ly is as
    real & as painfully vivid as the picture you paint with your
    words. hopefully... just maybe... even here in destee's
    house they will reach someone & give them strength.

    thank you for sharing.

    itsallLove! (don't stay gone too much longa!)

    elayne.
     
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    N2urSoul ... you know we be miss'n that N2urSoul Depth.

    Thanks for this.

    I've never understood the dynamics of such relationships. I wrote a peace about it some time ago ... think I'll go find it and repost since it's Domestic Abuse Awareness Month and all ... I wouldn't have known if you didn't tell us ... Thanks Sis :love:

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    time and time again I've sincerely tried to forget
    but dreams bring back the memories on which I must reflect
    I wasn't a victim, I think that's the hardest thing to accept
    to realize I was being beaten due to my own neglect
    and yet, I realize those circumstances could have been changed
    I should have stood up for myself when things rearranged
    but you said 'I won't do it again' and naively I believed
    unbelievable, it was the most horrific thing I ever conceived
    I suffered through and broke away and finally I see clear
    I dedicate my lives to others who share in that same fear
    to save one life is like saving my own, I never will cease
    helping other battered women find strength, joy and peace

    1luv
     
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    Deep piece. That's why we all must educate those that are in situations like this. It's all about loving yourself and too many don't. As always aka per usual nice piece.

    blak
     
  7. N2urSoul

    N2urSoul Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Thanking each of you, family, for the luv and as always ... the read!!


    N2
     
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    Thank you N2. Unfortunately, I am exposed to these kinds of issues daily...and I know there is a very complex psychology intertwined between victim and perpetrator. It's a horrific life, and one most of us will never understand (thankfully). But what I've come to learn is that it makes perfect sense to those ensnared in this way of living. It is all we can do to gently lead/guide them to the source of light outside a darkness they may not be aware of. And then there are those who do see their need to extricate themselves... they find the courage and strength, and cut and run. We as friends, loved ones, and professionals in the field, need to always be ready to assist in any way.

    It's mega deep.

    Thank you for this, and so very good to read you again!

    :heart:

    alyce
     
  9. Gaylee

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    Alyce, said I would say AMEN to her words above, and she is right. It is complex, deep and we need to be our sister's keepers in anyway they will allow us, or it is safe to be. They may not ever see the light without a sister in site to help.

    N2- I say AMEN to this piece too, it is needed and timely so true. I am about to go out and meet my domestic abuse client for today, I say that because I saw one yesterday, and that is not the main purpose of my job, but seeing one case a day or three or four a week at least is not uncommon in this office AT ALL!! Will this one let me help as I will offer? The odds are not good, but we do not give up!! So eventually those that are so deep in the dark begin to realize how really twisted the direction their lives are in, and know that they haven't been living in the light of day at all. Then they begin to reach out. Keep the light shinning on this subject scribes, you will reach someones life.
     
  10. Reason

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    Lovely Peice N2

    Been missin you on the boards... it's nice to read you again!!!

    Much respect for you and this much needed peice!

    Reas
     
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