Black People : DOES THE LACK OF BLACK MALE PRESENCE IN BLACK FAMILIES HURT YOUG BLACK FEMALES???

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Borther Isaiah and brother dual you guys are real men
I tried to make the marriage work but it was healthier for her and me to be alone.I wish he would just answer the phone or call.!

Thanx sis.

I came in on the discussion a little late so I'm not sure about your situation, but most of the reasons marriages break up is either because of financial irresponsibility or immaturity.
That's why people shouldn't get married or have children in the first place until they're mentally and financially prepared.
 
MY OPINION

THE LACK OF BLACK MALE PRESENCE IN THE BLACK FAMILY HURTS BOTH YOUNG WOMEN AND MEN, BUT AT THE SAME TIME IT DEPENDS ON WHO YOUR FATHER FIGURE IS. IF YOUR FATHER IS NOT A GOOD ROLE MODEL SOMETIMES IT CAN BE A GOOD THING THAT HE IS NOT AROUND. SO IT'S LEFT UP TO YOUR MOTHER TO GUIDE YOU. PERSONALLY, FOR A WOMAN HER FATHER IS THE FIRST MAN SHE LOVES. THIS IS THE MAN WHO SHOULD BE THERE TO PROTECT, PROVIDE, AND TOO SET THE FIRST EXAMPLE OF WHAT THIS YOUNG WOMEN WILL LOOK FOR IN MOST MEN. NOW AS FOR MYSELF I FEEL THAT THE LACK OF MY FATHER NOT BEING IN MY HOUSEHOLD HAS A MAJOR EFFECT ON ME TODAY. THE THINGS THAT I SAW HIM DO CAUSES ME TOO QUESTION WHAT EVERY MAN SAYS TOO ME. FOR SO LONG I THOUGHT THIS MAN WAS THE GREATEST MAN WHO WALKED THIS EARTH, UNTIL I WAS OLD ENOUGH TOO LOOK PAST ALL THE MATERIALISTIC THINGS HE GAVE ME THAT CAUSED ME TO BE BLINDED. AS I GREW INTO A YOUNG WOMAN I REALIZED THAT THIS MAN I LOOKED UP TOO WAS NOT WHO PORTRAYED HIMSELF TO BE. I FELT HIS LACK OF HONESTY WAS BETRAYAL TOO HIS FAMILY. THE SAME MAN WHO TOLD ME TO BE LOYAL TO MY SIBLINGS AND MY FAMILY WAS THE SAME PERSON WHO DID NOT FOLLOW HIS OWN GUIDELINES. THIS WAS THE SAME MAN WHO TOLD ME TO NEVER LET ANY PERSON DISRESPECT ME, I HAVE WITNESSED HIS LACK OF RESPECT FOR OTHERS. FOR MAJORITY OF MY LIFE MY FATHER WAS INCARCERATED SO I FELT AS IF HE DID NOT KNOW THE PERSON I WAS BECAUSE HE MISSED SO MUCH OF MY LIFE. I HAD A RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM BUT HIS DAILY PRESENCE WAS MISSED AND ITS SOMETHING THAT I CAN NEVER GET BACK. EVEN THOUGH I HAVE TRUST ISSUSE WITH MEN I KNOW ITS SOMETHING THAT I CAN GET PAST BUT I STILL BELIEVE I TURNED OUT TO BE A GREAT YOUNG WOMAN BECAUSE I HAD A STRONG MOTHER WHO ACCEPTED THE ROLE OF BOTH PARENTS. SHE INSTILLED POSITIVE THINGS WITHIN ME. SHE TAUGHT ME TO RESPECT MYSELF, TO BE INDEPENDENT, TO HAVE MORALS, VALUES, AND PRINCIPLES THAT I SHOULD LIVE BY WHICH SHOULD BE NON-NEGOTIABLE. IM 23 YEARS OLD, NO CHILDREN, WORK, LIVE ALONE, GRADUATED HIGH SCHOOL WITH GOOD STANDARDS, AND IM STILL PERSUING MY COLLEGE EDUCATION SO EVEN THOUGH MY FATHER PRESENCE WAS SOMETHING THAT WAS MISSED I THINK THAT MY MOTHER REALLY MADE THE DIFFERENCE IN MY LIFE. I TURNED OUT TO BE JUST FINE.
 

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