karmashines said:If anybody approaches me for a friendly conversation, then I will be friendly back with them. I don't care about the gender or race.
However, I have encountered some black men that were downright rude when talking to me. One guy started talking friendly, then he said, "Can I have sex with you," after having only spoken to me for like five minutes. There is no reason to be nice with someone talking to me like I'm a prostitute.
People wonder why women, especially black women do and feel the way they do. Well, often times it's their own experiences that have caused them to be cautious of complimenting men, or really talking to them at all unless they are sexually interested in them. And even then they must be careful if they want to ensure they'll get a chance to date the man for longer than one night.
As far as black women not speaking as being reasons why black men go DL or go to white women... that's a bunch of bull and is no different than the slew of black women on here who have said black men's issues are the reason they go to white men. If you go to white women you do it 'cause you like them. If you go to men, you do it because you're gay or at least bisexual! Black women have nothing to do with these choices!
Anyway, why is there such a double-standard sometimes on this site? I see posts saying that black men should go to Carribbean or African women because of the lack of good American black women around... which is fine I guess, but God if a black woman gives her honest opinion about her experiences or whatever it's seen as twisted or backwards. And I'm not even saying that black men's issues are why black women go to white men or go gay. In fact, what I've said in this thread, (with the exception of this post where I specifically said some black men are too forward), goes for men in general.
I can’t speak to all the most bizarre or extreme brothers approaches to sisters, even though to my surprise, some of the most bodacious and sexually provocative brothers I know have scored with even the most supposedly intelligent and decent Black women by saying some of the most outrageous things to these sisters. I still find myself amazed how effective some of the most seemingly contradictory approaches to seemingly decent women have worked, but I guess that’s just one of the strange truths of life. I was raised and taught one way and have seen life sometimes strangely contradict those lessons. But when all the conservative and decent talk is over, it’s usually time to see what’s really going on.
I have even heard the most decent sister honestly talk about the time they irresponsibly slipped and “Ooopsed” and got their Big freak-on during a blind fling with some brother just out for the coochie…some reason they felt less inhibited with this type of brothers.
I don’t necessarily understand or defend those statements about DL brothers and I don’t think any Black men here are necessarily running to white women. But if a natural born intelligent Heterosexual Black man can’t speak to, flirt with, woo or impress his own woman, than whom does he embrace to have a natural emotional, intellectual and sexual balance with? White women?? Chinese women?? ...I think not...hopefully...
I believe Black women are so self-defensive and hypocritical sometimes, that they will invent almost any excuse or utilize any extreme idea to stay in denial about their personalities issues…it’s so sad…