The other day i was listening to a radio program, and the topic of discussion was how black people often fear the very things they need in order to heal our conditions. When the area of relationships was mentioned, some guy phoned in and stated that he believed black men and women were afraid to have healthy relationships with each other across the board. He wasn't saying that there were no black men and women who craved healthy relationships, but simply that we have so little faith in it happening on a broad scale, that some of us are avoiding such progress on purpose. This brings up such questions as: What would black people do if they had no broad-scale, reasonable complaints about the opposite sex? What would black men and women do with all the free time we had if we weren't blaming each other for things? Who would we then be forced to blame for other societal problems? What would be the new excuse for interracial relationships if we couldn't blame a lack of quality of our own genders? After many people debated the answers to these questions, the following question was asked: Do black people really want to heal our relationships, or are we so used to the discord that we are on some subconscious level, content to just blame each other and live being discontent with each other? I am wondering what comments anyone on this site has on this topic, and what your personal answers to the questions mentioned might be. Are any of you content with the state of our relationships? Do you believe most of our people genuinely crave each other and want to change? Should we all just give up and move on without each other? No need to be politically correct, feel free to be honest and not give the answer you think people want to hear.