Black Relationships : Do Opposites Attract?

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Do Opposites Attract?

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  1. Liberty

    Liberty going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Someone once told me, "Opposites attract, but they don't last."

    Maybe people that are more alike are more successful in love? But, maybe they bore each other?

    Maybe opposites are more exciting, and provide more spontaneity?




    What do you think?
     
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    Well look at it like this

    Two people and a sofa:
    One person tells the other to get them some soda
    This becomes a routine.
    Eventually this becomes family (familiar)
    Familiar can become boring

    Now let's look at this other sofa

    Two people and a sofa:
    One person tells the other to get them some soda
    This becomes a routine... until one day
    One day the person getting the soda pondered what if they could invent a way to get the soda, or even better, a way that they could drink without having to purchase the soda to begin with.
    This inspires the other person to become involved in the process as well, and finding it enjoyable to work on it together.

    Guess what this creates, imagination and a future to look forward to.

    Many couples do not see a "future" or consider how to "build a future", and thus the two become bored with each other as neither are probably projecting their visions and progressing towards them.

    Without a vision, there can be no movement towards a future, instead it's just sitting on the sofa, waiting for that soda.


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    UBNaturally Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    As for the opposite thing... doubt there is really anything comparative to claim opposition
    Characteristics?

    Happy vs Sad = doomed already
    Nice vs Mean = doomed already
    Weak vs Strong = Mentally... doomed already, physically... well that's how it works.

    What criteria would be used to categorize these supposed "opposites" that we tend to claim

    Men are from Mars and women are from Venus?
    What does this really mean?
     
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    I liked this scenario. I think you captured the opposition.
     
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    Liberty going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Opposition could mean:

    traditional values vs modern values
    shy vs outspoken
    big spender vs penny pincher
    party animal vs homebody
    risk taker vs safe minded
    conservative vs liberal
    obsessively neat and clean vs slob
    stylish dresser vs tacky dresser
    optimist vs pessimist


    etc.
     
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    In my case, I do tend to find those who I consider my "opposite" to be highly intriguing. But those are more like myself make me feel more comfortable and secure.
     
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    Liberty going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    I enjoy hanging out with my sisters and girlfriends, because of the things we have in common. But, I agree, I find men who are opposites of me, more intriguing, interesting, etc.
     
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