Black People : Do Men Need Many Women??

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  1. NADIA*BINTA

    NADIA*BINTA Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    "...why all the bickering over that brotha?
    that man chose one, two...three
    but in the end hell ignites between you and me
    we can battle all day about what he sees
    in you, me or her
    but when it comes right down to that thang
    evidently it's pretty much the same
    since we're all his babies' mamas...

    ...sistahs i don't wanna fight!
    put away your dukes, gun and knife
    maybe it's in his nature
    or some ancient African custom
    to help life thrive through production of tribes...
    and perhaps it's not just more offspring
    that bring our men - Kings - to this thing... polygamy..."
    (excerpt from original poem - CONVERSATION)

    DO MEN NEED MANY WOMEN?

    From Abraham, Moses, Solomon, Muhammad (PBUH)... to daddy, uncle, brother, lover & all in between polygamy has been seen. Oh, sure we say we live in a monogamous society, but are we?

    I ask 'DO MEN...' because most times when women find that special one and are all in love and giddy... unless provoked by our man's infidelity, we usually stay faithful. (Usually is the operative word, y'all) However, it seems alot of men (not all men) stray whether he has a good thing or not.

    I mean, we can whip up a full course meal everyday, in nothing but a thong and stelleto heals on... be a freak in the bed, a lady in public... pamper, massage and some brothas still dodge monogamy.

    I've been intrigued by this thing... because it seems Biblically and Quranically God has made polygamy an acceptable thing for men.

    Sistahs before y'all start bashing, let me assure you I'm not encouraging... i'm just asking... DO MEN NEED MANY WOMEN?
    Could it be we're blinded by what this society shows as relationships and love? I know so many of us say 'not my man'... hell, i said the same until we talked openly, honestly and he began to explain some thangs...

    Oh, we've gone back and forth and it actually took some time for me to look at the issue w/o tissue and anger. He insists most guys are like this, but just won't be honest with their women. What y'all think...
     
  2. triniti424

    triniti424 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Ok quick question ...how many of those polygamous relationships are HAPPY :) I mean really though
     
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    Solomon married many women for political advantages that l know of...
    but on the flip side o' thangz...
    we don't need them, we want them. Personally speaking, l am pleased with the one l am with :wink:
     
  4. Azzura76

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    A question that has many answers

    This question has been asked thousands of times and men NEVER
    give us the same answer twice. I've grew up around alot of brothas and I watch them play sistas left and right. Some claim that they have to have a wifey type at home(good girl) a freak on the side(willing to do anything w/o the commitment) the maybe girl(the one that may have a chance if he break up with wifey)

    The tomboy(his road dog who's down for whatever) and the booty call girl. theres alot of other names for us women that men use but I only put a few.

    Men say they don't want their wifey to be to much of a freak because they won't know how to take that. Men use the excuse to have many for any reason. My take is it's not just a man thing, it's wrong.
     
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    the thing is that no matter how many women a man chooses to marry, play (you know what l mean :D ), he would not get enough. But if you really want to be really blunt, it's the sex a man wants and needs (not excluding love). ln other words, if a man cheats it's b/c he wants the sex, not the love. (so "that thing" women have is something powerful) :jawdrop:
    l am telling you, it has to be the sex b/c no man in his right mind can put up with that many women.
     
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    AMEN ON THAT
     
  7. NADIA*BINTA

    NADIA*BINTA Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    yo, thanks for the feedback y'all... keep it coming, if you choose, and be true... i'm just asking...
     
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    NADIA*BINTA Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    and triniti424, personally, i don't know any happy relationships of the sort... especially where the women know about each other... unless of course, you just get down like that :)... but i don't think it's impossible... worse case scenario, you'd hate the gurl... best case scenario y'all are like sisters... just saying.... not that i'm nominating my relationship for that situation...

    peace
     
  9. NADIA*BINTA

    NADIA*BINTA Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    and j'hiah, i understand that some of these unions are formed for political reasons, or... a hella ratio of women 2 men, during times of war, where there are many widows needing assistance (in various ways)... or just because the man or even sometimes the woman wants to... i've read of women in some parts of Africa actually picking sisterwives for their husband...

    peace
     
  10. NADIA*BINTA

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    wooo... thankx for the info Isanusu... indeed, i am looking forward to this future post about different sexual practices & customs... i simply find this issue intriguing, ya know?...

    peace
     
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