Black Men : Do Lonely WomenAatrract Yoyu?

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  1. river

    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    Hey brothas,

    I was listening to some music when the song Hey There Lonely Girl came on. I used to hate that song because I didn't think any guy really felt that way or be trying to step to a woman for that reason. You remember the words

    Every since he broke your heart
    You seem so lost
    Each time you pass my way
    Oh how I long to take your hand
    And say don't cry
    I'll kiss your tears away

    Chorus
    Hey there, lonely girl lonely girl
    Let me make your broken heart like new
    Hey there lonely girl lonely girl
    Don't you know this lonely boy loves you

    You may think that only he can kiss your lips
    And make your heart stand still
    But once you're in my arms you'll see
    No ofne can kiss your lips the way I will

    Chorus

    I saw this as the kinda crap that happens to white women on tv but for me it seemed unreal.

    Now in your honest life experience have you or anyone you know ev er been attracted to a broken hearted woman to the point you wanted to out kiss her ex? Have you ever wanted to repair the damage?
     
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    In the Spirit of Sankofa!

    river,

    Yes and No!....but regardless, I will protect her, love her and cherish her!

     
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    Zulile Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Sister River,

    I do believe some men are attracted to the lonely hearted woman.. Men who like to feel like the proverbial "knight in shining armour" rescuing the damsel in distress. There are also men who prey on lonely women, as use them to boost their own feelings of low self worth. The lonely hearted woman is the one who will happily go with whomever is going to make her feel better - and it's not hard when she is feeling at rock bottom.

    I know people like this personally - both men and women.

    :heart:
    Zulile
     
  4. river

    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    Hey sista zul,

    Yes, we are programmed by these fairytales we grow up with into thinking that light will always come after the storm and our handsome prince will come at the moment we are most depressed.

    I think it's best to deal with our own pain and if we have to share our problems then share the ones we've already dealt with or at least have one or two possible solutions. But then I am a loner and the thought of weeping on someone's shoulder appalls me. The only person I cry to is my aunt Shirley cuz she will make me crack up laughing even when I'm trying my best to cry.
     
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    Greeting Sister River....

    After reading your post I'm remembered of the Movie..."Waiting to exhale" you know what Angela goes the the islands to just get away. And what happens she runs into a slick talking natives of the island working in the hotel...your know the Eddy Murphy joke type.."hey dere pretty lady why u looking so sad dar sittin all alone like dat". Smh....any way, personally sure i would inquire why she is so sad..but that is it. I'm not in this world to compete with another man for a sad woman's feelings. That is baggage and that is something she has to empty herself...no one should ever try to do that for her. To me it would be like competing with a ghost..spooky to say the least. Sure I'd try and make her smile and laugh awhile... but to be pushing all up on her, no way!

    Lilpea :1on1:
     
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    hey lilpea---you sure you not thinkin bout "When Stella got her Groove Back"? In "Waiting to Exhale," Angela didn't go to an island. After she won her settlement, she was sitting in a hotel bar (lookin all pretty....and lonely), when along came Wesley Snipes (with those big ole shoulders, just perfect for crying on!) They got a room upstairs.....................and didn't do nothin'......................remember?
     
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    sister river,if you liked[hey there lonely girl]then you'll love[let me in your life-bill withers]and yes i've dated a lonely woman or two in my single days[a thousand years ago].
     
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    Now, I have to go out and find that song. Dag.

    Anyway, I know there are a lot of lonely "Black" women out there. And yes I have been attracted to them. But things are always more complicated than television or the movies. Some women are really hurt over their past. It can be really complex trying to unravel all of that. And it becomes even more complicated when you have your own set of problems.

    I wish that I could find that lonely woman and kiss all those tears away and we could live happily every after. But many times things aren't so simple.
     
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    Heydiesman.

    I don't know that one but I love Bill (who doesn't).

    You get me in a crowd of high class people
    Then you act real rude to me
    But now baby baby baby baby when you love me I can't get enough
    I I I wanna spread the news
    That it feels good being used
    You just keep on using me
    Until you use me up


    Hey that's a whole nother potential topic. thanks man. Be looking for it.
     
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    Complex is what life is. Complicated is what we make it.
     
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