My son started VPK this year. We decided to send him to a well known day care provides vpk and since he had gone there before at a different location we decided to send him there. A few weeks after he started attending he started saying disturbing things. The first time was about a month ago. I picked him up from school, while driving home he asked me "Mommy, do we make guns in the backyard?". I thought "WTF!!?, what did he just ask me?" So to be sure I was hearing him correctly I ask him to repeat and sure enough thats what he asked. So then I asked 'what do you mean?' He replied 'Guns, you know the kind you shoot people with.' I said to myself 'wow. ok' I then proceeded to explain to him that we do not make guns in the backyard nor do we use guns to hurt our friends' I then asked him where he got that from, but ofcourse I knew because we certainly dont watch voilent movies with the kids around, we definitly do not talk about stuff like that at home and the kids rarely spend time with anyone aside from their father and I.
The next day I talked with his teacher about it. She told me that they were aware that some of the boys are pretending to make guns when they go out and play and that they are stopping the boys from doing this while explaining to them why this is wrong. She seemed just as disturbed as I was and then went on to say something along these lines 'Yes I am aware that some of these kids come from crazy environments, things just arent what they used to be.' I was satisfied with her answere but still disturbed.
My son was also coming home saying stuff like 'I want to go to jail or the cops are gonna put Ajani (his brother) in jail. The latest and most disturbing statement was 2 nights ago when at dinner he blurted out 'I want the cops to come and kill me.' WTF!!!? I almost jumped out of my skin. 'Where did you hear that at?' I was beside myself I could not and still cant believe he said that. So I went there and talked to the teacher today as it turns out there is a kid there the one he plays with the most that has been known to make obscene and outrageous comments.
My mom says we should take him out of that school because its too close to the ghetto anyway and there are other children there that I have witnessed saying crazy things that really shouldnt be coming out of a 4 year olds mouth. I dont know about that just yet. If it continues I will. My thing is that my son has never said any of these things before he went there and we just dont say 'anything' around the kids. So he is getting it from the kids at school. And if we did change schools it might get worse because alot of people dont know how to talk around kids and say anything. My sister in Chicago said that a little mexican told her son 'I dont have to listen to you because your not white!' in separate incident a little black girl said regarding my nephew 'That ***** was in my class last year!'
Has anyone ever had these kinds of problems and if so how did you deal with them?
The next day I talked with his teacher about it. She told me that they were aware that some of the boys are pretending to make guns when they go out and play and that they are stopping the boys from doing this while explaining to them why this is wrong. She seemed just as disturbed as I was and then went on to say something along these lines 'Yes I am aware that some of these kids come from crazy environments, things just arent what they used to be.' I was satisfied with her answere but still disturbed.
My son was also coming home saying stuff like 'I want to go to jail or the cops are gonna put Ajani (his brother) in jail. The latest and most disturbing statement was 2 nights ago when at dinner he blurted out 'I want the cops to come and kill me.' WTF!!!? I almost jumped out of my skin. 'Where did you hear that at?' I was beside myself I could not and still cant believe he said that. So I went there and talked to the teacher today as it turns out there is a kid there the one he plays with the most that has been known to make obscene and outrageous comments.
My mom says we should take him out of that school because its too close to the ghetto anyway and there are other children there that I have witnessed saying crazy things that really shouldnt be coming out of a 4 year olds mouth. I dont know about that just yet. If it continues I will. My thing is that my son has never said any of these things before he went there and we just dont say 'anything' around the kids. So he is getting it from the kids at school. And if we did change schools it might get worse because alot of people dont know how to talk around kids and say anything. My sister in Chicago said that a little mexican told her son 'I dont have to listen to you because your not white!' in separate incident a little black girl said regarding my nephew 'That ***** was in my class last year!'
Has anyone ever had these kinds of problems and if so how did you deal with them?