Black People : Did you know I am your Cousin

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  1. HODEE

    HODEE Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    African Americans are traditionally a people of oral tradition.

    Maybe thats why we talk so much. Wanting to be heard. What's on your mind brother. Tell me about it sister.

    " As we became more educated. We lost the story telling. Although we can read and write now, most find it difficult to trace our ancestry back more than three to six generations. The events of today are the history of tomorrow. Most people don't get up in the morning thinking "Today is the history of tomorrow, so what I think of as ordinary, may be seen as extraordinary in 100 years." Time just moves on one day at a time until "this today" becomes the history of tomorrow. However, much of our story as a people will be lost if not recorded. "

    The ancestry and lineage of history... nobody wrote anything down. My father even had his last name changed by his grandfather.. and he didn't find out for 60 years. He was retiring and was told he had a different name from the one he used all his working life. He chose the one his social security recognized.

    Me and my sisters and brothers belonged on a milk carton. I still laugh at this today..

    I would sit for hours and ask my mother about her past. I found out I have Native American blood coursing thru my veins. She relayed things to me only I know. My brothers and sisters didn't have this curiosity. She picked cotton.. my father bite a white man on the leg.. for mistreating him. They were fighters.. maybe that is why I will never lay down, my mind. She told me of her childhood.. What she knew of my fathers. He wasn't a talker.. he was just a quiet storm. Constantly brewing on the horizon.. with possibility of rain.

    I wanted to meet all of my cousins and relatives..

    How many don't know they are hurting and facing their cousins.

    I had cousins living less than 10 miles from me for years. I found out during a funeral.. I went to visit.. they were nice and all. Yet ...We never got closer.. I even found out a cousin fired me from my job. I was a dishwasher and he became my boss. He told me he was letting me go. He wanted to hire a friend. I later got on my cousin for doing me like that. He had no remorse because he/we didn't know we were related. What a shame.. All I can do is try.
     
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    This brotha that I didn't get along with in Junior High, We found out we were cousins. That blew our minds because we couldn't stand each other but after that, we started acting like family.
     
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    WoW HODEE! I can relate to this so much. My father too change his name when entering the service. My last name isnt mine either. My grand mother was Cherokee indian. I never met her or any of her other children. My mother's mother and her father also were decendants of the native american and african decents. My blood is like hot fire. Unfortunately I never got to hear about my family history other than what my parents told me. When my father died and his death certificate came from the army the last name on it was Garrison. So he did change his name more than once. Hodee, You could be my cousin.
     
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    i can relate this so much....but my story so long, I might put myself to sleep.
     
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    The way I see, we're all family, my black people.
     
  6. HODEE

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    Pharaoh Jah

    You felt something there.. didn't know what it was.. but you almost went at each other. My whole point in writing this is. Are we hurting FAMILY.. and not knowing it.

    PurpleMoons

    I am your blood brother. You are part of me.. even if we live and have different parents. Your Cherokee ancestors knew this.. WHY don't we. It was a good way to live. Besides I have this fascination with Cherokee women. They are demanding and strong.. Cherokee men are very wise.


    Royal_T

    Please put me to sleep with your story. I like reading good stories. I'll tell you more about the mixed up name thing if you share yours.
     
  7. uzoka

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    My father, as long as I have known him, has always tried to escape the fact that he is African due to his experiences as a child through his teens and as a young man, before he managed to make his way to England.
    His queens English accent anytime he wants to sound as though he's an authority of a given subject and his 'white is right, black is best hidden...that is unless there are no whites in the room' attitude irritate me no end still today.

    It has been the cause of many hotly contested arguments between the both of us and unfortuntely we don't talk anymore...well, I avoid him.

    Recently, some long lost family got in contact with him via a long letter complete with pictures.
    He simply threw the thing in the bin and began asking, "what do they want" [according to my brother].
    Unfortunately I wasn't there otherwise I would have retrieved it.

    Africa embarrasses him.

    So I have dozens of cousins, nieces, nephews, aunties, uncles, etc that I have never seen.
    Probably never will either....my brother tries to pry info out of him to no avail.

    Luckily, my mother is a little more talkative so all is not lost where her side of our family history is concerned, still what a pity and a loss.

    Sorry to put such a downer on what so far, is a good feel thread.

    Peace and Love.
     
  8. HODEE

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    Uzoka..

    What you write isn't as downer... if it's true then it is.

    " My father, as long as I have known him, has always tried to escape the fact that he is African due to his experiences as a child through his teens and as a young man, before he managed to make his way to England.
    His queens English accent anytime he wants to sound as though he's an authority of a given subject and his 'white is right, black is best hidden...that is unless there are no whites in the room' attitude irritate me no end still today. "

    All I can really say is love your father anyway. He doesn't understand now.. maybe never will. But he is your father.

    I think we all play a game simular. I can hold a conversation with the best.. and hold my own. But then among the streets of Oakland I better know how to come. I don't play the switch.. but I feel the pull. I don't need cursing to express my self, and clipped words to seem hip. That is the game of a stange behavior lots fall into. I grew up reading black poetry. It was written in slang.. we use to day. So I see no negative in the speech. I just wish others knew when it was appropritate to use proper pronouced words. I could never be hired saying.. Yo i would like to work for you.

    Write them.. get the address from family.. and take a trip. Pay for one to visit you. Your father's wishes shouldn't shape yours to the point you give up trying... The family probable wanted to share some love.. not wanting anything else. Some relatives will lean on you too much.. even those have something to give.
     
  9. HODEE

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    Uzoka
    I didn't get to say.. Welcome to DESTEE. Glad your here.. looking forward to reading more of your post. I see your a Gemini too. Cool.. huh
     
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    Thanks HODEE, wise words, and words that echo advice I've received elsewhere.

    Yeah, you can bet that as soon I get a lead as to who and where these long lost relatives of mine are [my father is determined at this point in time to remain elusive and reticent on the subject] that I will get in contact with them and arrange for a meeting of some sort.

    As regards my strained relationship with my father, well...time, as always, will reveal all; for now I think we need a break from eachother to clear to air hehe.

    And thanks, nice to be here....real nice.

    Yep, I'm a Gemini...can't complain, at least not about that.

    Peace and Love....
     
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