I participated in what I thought was an open discussion but was told by one brotha that because there were two brothas disagreeing with one another my input seemed to support one brotha over the other causing "tremendous damage" to the one voicing the opinion with which I disagreed. He did not say this as something that he felt personally but as something that is true of all men. Is it? If two brothas are disagreeing and I say something that supports the opinion of one have I destroyed the other? How much does the fact that I am a woman effect your being able to receive what I say if I disagree with you in fromt of other men? You know Da River wants your honest feedback. Not just what you think I want to here.