Black Men : Did I Do the Right Thing?

Discussion in 'Black Men - Fathers - Brothers - Sons' started by river, Apr 21, 2011.

  1. river

    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    One day I found myself caught between a rock and a hard place and I had to think quickly.

    I was in a bank desiring to go to an office on one of th eupper floors but i could not find a way up. A brother walked by and I asked him to help me which he agreed to do. Right then a white lady came up smiling nervously like they do. You know how they do. she asked me if I needed help. I immediately realized that I was in a sensiive situation. I could not go with the white woman and leave the brother standing there feeling useless and obsolete as so many Black men do. Nor could I just dis the white woman. I would go home. It was the brother who worked there and would have to deal with the retaliation. I just stood thee like everything is everything and said oh no I'm fine. I waited for the white woman to leave and when I was sure she was gone I went with the brother.
     
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    This doesn't really seem like a dilemma. Two people tried to help you. Seems like a good day to me.
     
  3. river

    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    Perception is reality. When we cannot perce8ve the effects our actions have on others we create realities of which we are not aware.
     
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    I think having given equal consideration to both parties speaks well about your character.
     
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    Or, you could have explained the situation and then stated that the gentleman was helping you. Thereby acknowledging her and giving the brother brownie points












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  6. river

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    As I said i did not want the brother to have to deal with white retaliation. I would be going home. It would be directed at him and brownie points from me wouldn't help him deal with it.
     
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    I'm sure that way would have deflected any retaliation. If she wanted to take over, she then would have done so without losing face


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    I don't get how he would've received retaliation if you told the lady that he was already helping you. :qqb019:
     
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    Maybe I'm missing something here...Why do you think anyone would have retaliated because you chose to receive help from the first person who offered you help? I would have done the same thing you did and let the brother help me.
     
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    You're just over analyzing the situation... Maybe the lady was bored and wanted to join... Don't always think negative!
     
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