Black Relationships : Dichotomies Examined

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  1. river

    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    I've read the lists of things people say they want in a mate. Now ask yourself. Does the kind of people you have had relationships with bear any resemblance to the list of characteristics you say you are looking for? If not, what do you think needs to change, your list or your dating habits?
     
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    I'd like to hear from you. :)
     
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    Hey river. The characterisics that I look for are different from the people I've dated. I think the problem on my end was that I thought a couple of these women had the characteristics that I was looking for, turns out they were not really that way. I don't know if I was just seeing what I wanted to see, or if they were hiding it from me because they knew they weren't really what I wanted. Did that make sense. Either way, I think that I simply have to really make sure that I find someone that has those qualities before commiting to anything.
     
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    i actually have a check list i used to use jus for fun- i guess im picky- but it helped. it helped me realize my standards and be able to separate a possible relatioship from a friend- which is prolly y im single-lol
     
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    Been there, Kente, and done that. Maybe it's a little of both. They put on the mask and we act like we can't tell it's a mask.
     
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    Daroc, I know you from somewhere :lol:
     
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    Co-sign


    Yeah, I'm gonna have to jump on this band wagon right quick. I WAS married.. Well, still am until one of us files, but... I could have sworn when I met him that he was perfect. Perfectly crazy, maybe. :driveby: I used to have a list, a long time ago.. I found my self changing my list to fit my dating habits. Now? I need a new list.......
     
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    Never had a list...

    I'm just naturally drawn to certain types of personalities...and it seems to work out. My dating habits are sort of varied and I feel the men have been too
     
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    What needs to change for me is that I need to be reborn back into the 1970's or 60's. Alot of the women of my generation (Y ages 18-25) are repulsive and offensive too me.

    More than likely I just need to find someone who is on my level :).
     
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