Hey everyone,
my name is Christiana. I'm 21 years old and am attending college to study social work. I stay in an on campus apartment at the university. As part of my major requirements I have to do internships. At the internship I'm working at right now there are always inmates from the local jail who work there doing custodial jobs on some sort of work release is what I'm guessing. I became friends with one of the inmates there. We would talk and chat on our lunch breaks and in the mornings before we started work. He seemed like a nice guy-very well mannered and level headed. I assumed that he went to jail for something like vandalism, drugs, or something of that nature. I never would have thought that he had hurt another person directly.
We exchanged numbers and he said that he would get in touch with me after he got out and maybe we could hang out or something. He got in touch with me the day that he was released. A couple of days later we had a long conversation. I found out alot about him and i found out why he got put in jail. According to him he had sex with a girl who said she was 17. He had just turned 18. Come to find out she was actually 15 and was lieng about her age the whole time. So he was arrested and convicted of raping a 15 year old girl-it was consensual.
He seems like he's repented of his mistakes and is trying to move on and do better with his life. he wants to hang out with me on Friday. We were just planning on hanging out at my college-playing video games, playing ping pong, things like that. Part of me says that I should give him a chance-maybe he really didn't know that she was 15. But is that an excuse? He's been asking me questions about sexual things that i don't feel comfortable talking about and is flirtatioush with me. I told him to stop and he did.
If it were you would you hang out with him, get to know him more over the phone before meeting in person, or break all contact with him? By the way i"m not planning on dating him at all. But is it dangerous to be his friend? What are your opinions?
Christiana
"he's repented for his mistakes"
If his advances make you uncomfortable, and him stopping when u asked seems contrived I would say go with ur feelings
u gotta keep in mind that if he just got otta jail he gonna make advances
you say your not planning on dating him, but since you say that, it would lead me to beleive ur very interested in this man
u could very easily look into the details of his arrest, find out about his momma and sisters and see how he treats them
u like him, he's perceived as a rapist
if ur gonna give him a chance, give him a chance
not every man that is in jail is guilty, and not every man in jail is innocent
don't front tho, u like him, or u wouldn't need our advice