Black People : Debate Styles - What Do You Like or Dislike ?

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  1. Destee

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    Peace and Blessings Family,

    I'm not an official debater, not versed in official debate styles, but I have seen quite a few here over the years. I don't know if it's actually debate styles I've seen, or just individual peculiarities of some Members. Nonetheless, some of these styles / peculiarities i like, and some i don't.

    I really do not like it when someone enters into a debate with me, asks questions, gets them answered, but does not answer mine ... ooouuuuu ... talk about going the distance ... i'm finished with debating with this person, right at this point. I may go a bit longer, just to finish out my presence in the discussion respectfully, but I've made my mind up that this is not a style of debate I enjoy and will be reluctant to become involved in a debate with them in the future.

    I like those who stay on topic, and focused, that's always a good thing.

    I don't like those who make personal insinuations, almost using it to muddy the focus of the discussion up. I'll usually leave them with their insinuations, and find a more adult interaction to be a part of.

    hmmmm ... let me think ...

    I probably don't like folk leaving me in a discussion, never getting back to me, but i'm probably so guilty of this myself ... as I often get involved, and never have time to come back to it ... when it's truly my intention to do, but time simply does not allow it.

    I've grown to loathe the discussions that get stuck on the meaning of an every day normal word. Oh my gosh. I've seen many a great discussion derailed this way. I've almost wanted to start a new forum ... DEFINITIONS OF WORDS ... where a Member could start a thread on the word they need a definition of, no longer being allowed to ask it in the midst of an ongoing discussion. Just go rite over to that forum, post your definition request, and someone will help you out ... leaving the discussion to flow freely on, and not get hung up on that same hurdle yet again. But of course we've never done this, just wishful thinking.

    I do enjoy going point for point, if the points are presented coherently ... :eeek:

    I think it's a great discussion style, if both (all) involved, can interact respectfully and walk away the same ... that's a win in my book ... all day long.

    I don't know Family ... i was just thinking ... there's so many styles presented here ... what do you like or dislike?

    Thanks in Advance!

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    I like to watch a clean good health debate on a subject / topic
    but i don't debate ............

    what i don't like is when debates go personal / off topic /or little
    attacks and hide there hands BEWARE ......this my pet peeve !
     
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    I don't like to debate...I like to watch and/or listen to a debate too.

    But I like it when the debate has two good strong points and when both parties are respectful to each one's opinion. No talking over the other one, no name calling...But I will admit, sometimes it can be entertaining to watch a good rumble LOL

     
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    ooouuu ... i love taking part in a good debate ... and watching them too!

    i think debating is a skill that must be honed, and polished often ... some do it better than others ... but all could grow to do it well ... this community is a fertile ground for sharpening one's debate skills.

    prior to destee.com, i was no where near as good as i am now ... :weights: ... :wink:

    practice really does make (almost) perfect ... :D

    Love You!

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    I see.....maybe if i was that kind of talker , but i'm the kind who say what
    they gotta say without lots of talk ....so there is no room for me to debate
    now i've seen you in action and i agree you are a very strong debater
    me i'll get chewed up ....this a nother reason why we need to be in unity
    where one is strong it picks up the weak .... ya feel me !

    we are like a hand
    4 fingers and 1 thumb
    debater / thinker/ worrior/creator / conscious awareness / lovin hearts
    collectively in unity we become a FIST who can strike a mighty blow

    that's the beauty of strong and weak the yes and no and the i will / i won't
     
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    What I dislike the most about a debate, is a close-minded participant.
     
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    This where problems come in from the mind being closed to the topic/subject at hand , I agree
     
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    I like those who stay on topic, and focused, that's always a good thing.

    I don't like those who make personal insinuations, almost using it to muddy the focus of the discussion up. I'll usually leave them with their insinuations, and find a more adult interaction to be a part of.


    That is exactly the point.

    The whole point of the debate is an intellectual chess game between 2 congenial, civil and social players, and nothing more.
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    But when debates are reduced to folks personaly bragging or personally acusing or name calling ,
    then it has gone out of the realm of civility.
     
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    DISLIKES
    -When it gets off topic and hijacks the post
    -Rudeness, including name calling and being holier-than-thou
    -Digging up old posts
    -Not reading the other person's thread or reading too much into it

    LIKES
    -Tolerant of others
    -Realizing that there are lies, [email protected] lies, and statistics
    -Knowing when it is time to end the discussion. All debates must come to an end, and it doesn't have to mean that one person is the winner. Sometimes folks just have to agree to disagree. It doesn't make that person your enemy on the next topic either.
     
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    Rudeness, including name calling and being holier-than-thou
    -Digging up old posts

    It doesn't make that person your enemy on the next topic either.

    Words of Wisdom!!!!!
     
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