Higher Standard Required : Cursing - Swearing - Expletives - Etc. - Not Allowed

Discussion in 'Our Rules - Higher Standard Required' started by Destee, Jan 9, 2002.

  1. Destee

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    Hello Everyone,

    This is not an "anything goes" kind of place. We do have a "banned word list" on the forum, though it is short because I don't want to hinder anyone's creativity by taking legitimate words away from them (many words have several meanings and can be used in many ways).

    For those that have been here awhile, you know that we're quite liberal when it comes to the use of swearing, cursing, etc. Oftentimes, a person needs to "*****," complain, get some things off their chest ... and only that word can express it properly.

    If you've been in the family a while, posted a few peaces and given us the opportunity to see that your flow is a mature and conscious one ... we are going to be more lenient regarding your use of such words.

    If you are new here and walk right in the door cursing, swearing, talking of ***** and ******* ... you are going to be warned and/or your peace edited.

    I'm hoping, since we have such a mature crowd, that each one can monitor their own choice of words, keeping me from universally banning more of them.

    For example, if you must use the word "dick" and/or "p-ussy," I'd much rather you choose their proper alternatives, i.e., penis and vagina ... if you are using them in that context.

    We've not had a problem yet, just trying to stay on top of things (so we don't).

    As always, if you have any questions or concerns you can post them here.

    Thanks,

    Destee

    As I type this, I see that I've banned p-u-s-s-y and not dick! What's up with that??!! Hmmmm ...
     
  2. alyce

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    Ms. Destee...

    you know I appreciate everything that proceeded from your throne in this reading of our Rights and Responsibilities, Queen. You da law.

    My only statement is to your very last point.... see, p-u-s-s-y isn't a proper noun (you know, like Richard's nickname is).....I mean, what other reason could you have had for showing such a preference for dick? :D

    :heart:

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    Ms. Alyce ... this is true and as I've pondered your help in solving this mystery ... hehehe ... my mind goes to the fact that dick is not an animal either and p-u-s-s-y is, which should have given her/it some extra consideration ... don't you think??!!! :D

    I'm going to investigate this further, it was probably one of our Moderators that banned her/it. :wink:

    Destee
     
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    ummmhmmmm...so what you're saying

    is, upon further investigation of this situation, it might be possible that piece can be established with dick and the kitty cat happily cohabiting in da house ???? :D

    .... I'm through now

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    usage of words

    I take it my one particular work has offended some of you and this page.
    First let me tell you that there was no offense intended.
    In fact, if you read the piece with understanding you will find that there is actually a message to some of the brothers who feel that woman are just playtoys.
    Ms. Destee, you make the statement that certain words can be used in a particular content. In fact, when this piece was orginally written, I was being barraged by five men who were trying to get angry by insinuating that all black women were money hungry and only would deal with a black man if he had lots of money and a good car. While they were throwing all this nonsense at me, I choose to write my anger down on paper while they were talking. Now if this clears up the matter as why I chose certain words, that is the story. Now again, if this type of piece is offensive to you and your page, I will only send the ones that are mellow. For the record, if you receive works that are offensive, you should write to the offending party in private to straighten the matter out immediately. I also have a website and my site is called controversywriters.com. I am in the process of completing and all my works are on there as well as other controversial pieces by others. Maybe this site would be more in the liking of others who may write pieces such as this. However, I am not condoning going off the hook either.
    I use words as a painter uses a brush. Just as there is visual art that offends others, therefore there will be written pieces that will offend others as well. Please accept any apologies and I will continue to push this site to others.

    Thank you.
     
  6. Destee

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    Ryss ... no, I was not speaking to any one peace. As administrator of this forum, I have to look further than today ... trying with all my might to see tomorrow ... based on all of our yesterdays. Taking into consideration the ebb and flow of all things within our community. No one said anything to me about your peace, please don't think that.

    This forum has been up for a year and I just put up our forum rules this week. I'm saying this to say, we are not about rules, fences or obstacles keeping us from being us. All of those rules have come as a result of us growing into them, just like this new "rule" has. Everything and everyone is welcome and I understand completely the sensuality of a poet. The last thing I want to do is hinder that. But at the same time, I'm responsible to my own vision/dream and the level of comfort and quality of all. I'm always trying to balance it, weigh out what I think is best for the community at large, while taking into consideration each individual ... it's not always an easy thing to do ... but I'm trying.

    The note above is not the first of its kind and it was not your peace that prompted me to write it. There have been a series of peaces that I've read (over a number of months) that has lead me to believe it's time that I address this. Unless it is something that cannot be ignored, I'm usually very slow to act.

    If I don't let the family know what is expected/wanted, there will be no way for them to adhere to that. I'm really just communicating.

    I remember a young man that joined us some time ago that used profanity in his first peace (and title). I asked him to enter this house as he would anyone's that he had respect for. In most cases, we would not walk into someone's home cursing and swearing. I think it's all about respect for where you are and the company you're in (not to mention one's own self-respect).

    Ryss, I will never ask you to explain why you wrote a peace or where you were (mentally) when you wrote it. I will simply be grateful that you shared a part of yourself with me and absorb all that I can from it.

    Again, just wanting to establish an understanding between the administration and those who frequent here. There's nothing like an understanding.

    Please do stay and continue to share and invite others to join us. You and they will be treated with much respect and hospitality, as all are who enter here.

    Destee
     
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    Alyce ... is dick wearing Kodiak work boots?!

    if not ... we may be able to do this!

    :)
     
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    Destee, you have never known me to lie

    ...from what I understand dick don't roll like that...

    ok, I'm really through now... handle it


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    Alyce ... it does look like some gender discrimination is going on up in here ... the more i think about this ... (and thinking of all the work Hunter has done/shared w/the Vagina Chronicles) ... I would be the last person discriminating against kitty ... ooohh gosh ... i'm thinking that I was protecting her from being abused ... thinking dick could handle himself out here in the world ... wow ... is this 3rd world thinking or what!

    Alyce ... are you suggesting that i let kitty out ??!! free to roam this forum as she pleases ???!! :eeek: Will people abuse her??!!!

    :::signed::::

    keeper of the kitty
     
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    go'n and let the KiZ~at out

    da BiZ-ag.... nothing like a cooped up kitty, Destee...you KNOW thissssssss ....

    And why should we discriminiZate?... what's good for dick is beneficial to the Kat! And heck if I can 'splain why it must be like....dat....

    Now that you have the facts, you MUST STOP THIS INJUSTICE Destee.... Let the Kitty loose! You know she can hold it down....


    I'm really really through this time...

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