Hi,
Apologies in advance - English is not my 1st language, and also we're still studying the culture.
I'm a Caucasian Jew, and would be grateful to anyone willing to take the time and share their opinion regarding kid's education. I hope it's not complicating things unnecessarily, I just want to do the right thing...
One of daughters, aged 3+, became curious about skin shades. For her there's no baggage, she never heard of racist stupidity (and if you told her she'd think you've lost your mind). She just has a sense of wonder about human versatility - people surviving in desert & snow. Her interest was triggered when she played with an African-American friend at the kindergarden yard, my daughter got sunburns while her friend didn't.
The only problem is... knowing my kid, she might put her friend in the spotlight, drown her with questions about this "superpower" of withstanding sunburns, point it out to others "look, how cool is that". This friend is only 3, she could feel complimented but she might also feel "in the spotlight". It's not like asking an adult teacher who's inviting you to ask.
So I'm not sure what to teache her...
- let her interrogate the friend, and hope this 3-year-old can tell whether she enjoys the attention or not?
- Or tell my daughter that "black is beautiful, but not everyone enjoys discussing it"? weird message, isn't it?
I tried to make some analogy to being Jewish - my kids enjoy discussing their heritage, but it could change if/when they feel discrimination.
Sincere thanks to anyone who took the trouble to read
Apologies in advance - English is not my 1st language, and also we're still studying the culture.
I'm a Caucasian Jew, and would be grateful to anyone willing to take the time and share their opinion regarding kid's education. I hope it's not complicating things unnecessarily, I just want to do the right thing...
One of daughters, aged 3+, became curious about skin shades. For her there's no baggage, she never heard of racist stupidity (and if you told her she'd think you've lost your mind). She just has a sense of wonder about human versatility - people surviving in desert & snow. Her interest was triggered when she played with an African-American friend at the kindergarden yard, my daughter got sunburns while her friend didn't.
The only problem is... knowing my kid, she might put her friend in the spotlight, drown her with questions about this "superpower" of withstanding sunburns, point it out to others "look, how cool is that". This friend is only 3, she could feel complimented but she might also feel "in the spotlight". It's not like asking an adult teacher who's inviting you to ask.
So I'm not sure what to teache her...
- let her interrogate the friend, and hope this 3-year-old can tell whether she enjoys the attention or not?
- Or tell my daughter that "black is beautiful, but not everyone enjoys discussing it"? weird message, isn't it?
I tried to make some analogy to being Jewish - my kids enjoy discussing their heritage, but it could change if/when they feel discrimination.
Sincere thanks to anyone who took the trouble to read