Black People : Crying With No Tears

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  1. Destee

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    Peace and Blessings Family,

    I've heard folk reference this, when they see others crying, but no tears are coming down.

    They seem to be of the opinion, that if there are no tears, then the crying is fake.

    I've never cried without tears, can't really imagine doing it, but it intrigues me nonetheless.

    When folk cry, I think they're crying, and I don't normally check for tears ... but I probably will from now on.

    If a person doesn't have tears when they cry, does it automatically mean the crying is fake?

    I think that's a big stretch, as we're all different, expressing our pain in different ways.

    A person could be crying inside, never shedding a tear or any expected manifestation of crying ... yet they are crying inside.

    What do you think?

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  2. HODEE

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    Folks will determine what they will.

    Babies cry for about a year with no tears.

    Some adults when they are sad can't bring themselves to tears.
    Reason why? varies.

    There are reported cases of people not crying after someone close to them or a parent passes.

    They are sad, ( crying emotionally inside, feeling sad ) but there are no tears.
    Later they may cry, but not when expected.
    Not everyone cries when expected. If a person is expressing a sad moment. It may or may not be accompanied with tears.

    Tears are a natural indication to many that sadness is occuring.

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    http://www.medindia.net/patients/patientinfo/Blockedtearduct_causes.htm

    Blocked Tear Duct / Dacryostenosis

    What are the causes of Blocked Tear Duct ?

    The tears normally move towards the nose where they drain into the tear duct system through an opening (lacrimal punctum). The tears eventually drain into the nose through the naso-lacrimal duct. In infants, there may be a partial or complete blockage of the tear duct system, which can be seen by continual overflow of tears from the eye. Gradually this condition changes on its own or with massage of the lacrimal duct. In adults, the tear duct system may become obstructed from nasal infection or severe conjunctivitis.

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    http://www.mdguidelines.com/dacryostenosis

    Medical Disability Advisor > Dacryostenosis ... In adults, tear duct blockages are usually caused by chronic nasal infection or severe or chronic inflammation of the mucous membrane covering the eyeball and lining of the eyelid (conjunctivitis). Inherited structural abnormality resulting in blockage usually appears...
     
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    pysically if u cry with no tears could be dehydrated...

    emotionally, mother's have been crying tearless for eons...

    regardless if i shed a tear or not doesn't determine how my heart aches...

    the tear is expression of emotion...

    emotions determine expression... an expression can have multiple meanings..... meaning something different to the observor....

    its the heartfelt intent that determines the meaning of a teardrop.... or the energy behind it

    and the observor that learns to read the intent as opposed to becoming the intent knows what tears to share in, and what to save a tear for....

    u control ur tears, u control ur emotions
     
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    This term has been used for as long as I've been around, to me it's just a 'figure of speech' ...used for a number of

    reasons, such as:
    That man/woman will cry with a loaf of bread in their mouth.
    (about a complaining person) you cry more than my baby.
    I gave you more than half, and you still crying.
    I don' have a job, they just cut your hours, and you crying?
    I was crying cause I have no money, but some don't even have a roof over their heads.


    This is the only time I've heard the term 'crying with no tears.
    Except for of course people that have a hurting heart, they cry insde sometimes. There are, 'silent cries that many of us go through.
     
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    i wake up cying and go to bed crying and cry all through the day worrying about folks in Haiti, Port of Spain, Compton, Soweto, Bahia, and Newark.

    But I shed the internal tears of the clown, and make sure folks only see me laughing, smiling, dropping science, and cutting the fool.

    IMHO it is uncool to burden others with our internal griefs
     
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    i cry each day when i look around
     
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    Newark? ...did I miss something? :D ...should I come out the house ducking? I ain't to proud to 'stop, drop and roll ...QQ
     
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    Your Post Reminded Me Of Dunbar...


    Paul Laurence Dunbar (1872-1906)
    We Wear the Mask

    WE wear the mask that grins and lies,
    It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes,—
    This debt we pay to human guile;
    With torn and bleeding hearts we smile,
    And mouth with myriad subtleties.

    Why should the world be over-wise,
    In counting all our tears and sighs?
    Nay, let them only see us, while
    We wear the mask.

    We smile, but, O great Christ, our cries
    To thee from tortured souls arise.
    We sing, but oh the clay is vile
    Beneath our feet, and long the mile;
    But let the world dream otherwise,
    We wear the mask!
     
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    :geek:when you live in nuu yawk, newark is a strange and foreign land....
     
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    Thanks everyone for sharing. It seems that most think like I do, that tears are not the end all / be all to crying.

    Where I've most usually heard this phrase, is when watching some "cop catches the black man" show ... and the Brother is crying, but there are no tears coming out ... and the detective bangs on the table and says ... "you're crying, but there are no tears ... stop faking the crying ... and tell us the truth!"

    So ... while we may all realize that tears aren't necessary for crying, if you're in front of some cops, being interrogated, you might wanna make some come out ... or they're gonna find you guilty as charged.

    Love Us! :grouphug:

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