Black People : Conversation with a White Man

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  1. Al D

    Al D We become that which we repeatedly do.. PREMIUM MEMBER

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    It is said that you never really know how someone really feels until you have a conversation with that person. I recently had the opportunity to engage in one such conversation and I must confess folks, man it was quite revealing. Allow me to give you just a little back ground before I get started and I will refrain from using any names here.

    Now, I have known this man whom I held in high regard (and to some extent, still do) for just a little over fourteen years through a working relationship. However, you know what they say; “I know him but I really don’t know him”. He comes across as very compassionate, understanding, personable and an honest person. Extremely easy to talk with and from what I could surmise then and still to this day, he does not have a single racist bone in his being… He’s intelligent, disciplined, methodical, calculating, loyal and driven to be successful, all of which are qualities that I respect, admire and have personally aspired to incorporate in my life…His smile and demeanor are very disarming and could leave one with the impression of a docile man…But make no mistake about it, he’s a sly fox and skilled predator who knows how to shake people up in order to get what he needs to get done…These are for the most part pretty much common traits in all successful business men and women..
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    HODEE going above and beyond PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Good read. I agree.
    Thanks for sharing
     
  3. Al D

    Al D We become that which we repeatedly do.. PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Brother Hodee, much appreciation and thanks for reading....
     
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    That was very interesting. As I read it I was in such disbelief that he seemed to be so comfortable expressing his views to you like that. Oblivious to the fact IMO that you're a black man. How does a white man become that comfortable expressing himself one on one like that? I have always had the opinion that white people automatically think we care or want to hear what they have to say. This man you write about takes it even a few steps farther.
     
  5. Al D

    Al D We become that which we repeatedly do.. PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Hey JenaBee, I thought it was very odd that he would approach me like that also. Like I said in my piece, either he was audacious and ignorant or felt that comfortable with me due to our relationship and maybe he felt he had that privilege because of the color of his skin and the fact that he paid my invoices without question. It more than likely could be a combination of all the above but I can assure you that he no longer feels that way after I directed him to my blog so that he could gain some further insight into how I feel... Needless to say we haven't continued the conversation as he said we would!! Thanks for your comment and for reading.....
     
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    You're welcome and my pleasure.
     
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    Brother Al D ... Happy New Year and thank you for sharing with us!

    You are such a great writer and i / we are honored that you share with us ... :yaay:

    I posted on your blog too ... made a mistake and typed ... Brother A D ... instead of ... Al D ... sorry.

    I was a little excited to be there ... very nice! :)

    It's good that you have your own site and stuff ... i love it!

    Do you know that as a part of Premium Membership you get web site hosting and we have our private Learning Web Site Ownership Forum? Oftentimes, once one has got their site situated on one host you do not want to move it but I see you use Wordpress and that is the focus of our learning too, so maybe we can share ideas, tips and such.

    Thanks again for being out here with us ... :love:

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  8. Al D

    Al D We become that which we repeatedly do.. PREMIUM MEMBER

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    Thank you, I sincerely appreciate those words.. You have given me validation and it's good to hear how much you enjoyed reading it... I really, truly am grateful...I will also take a look at your forum because although I write I don't really utilize all that word press offers.. There's much I can learn...
     
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    You are very welcome!

    Yes, you are a web site owner too and knowing a bit about what you have is good ... :)

    The learning process can be gradual, adding to your web site ownership skill set at your own pace.

    If you have any questions please ask, I'll be glad to try and help.

    Just post in the Learning Web Site Ownership Forum and i will answer.

    I may not know the answer, but together i'm sure we can find it ... :research:

    Love You!

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    This is fairly expected. I have extensive dealings with whites, I live in Canada for Christ sakes and have lived in countries like Finland and Sweden. When dealing with whites, the only real thing you can do is to throw it right back in their face. Stop trying to educate white people. They know what they are doing is wrong, they know they are lying, they just attack african peoples because most of us are weak in our behaviour. We try to explain and educate when white behave racistly. This is not a education issues. We are taught to think whies just "don't get it". No whites get it perfectly well.

    1. Ideally you want to find out what kind of white you are dealing with, whether he is a german, italian, russian, slav, whatever, I always find this out about any white I expect to encounter on a regular basis.
    2. Make sure you have fodder on their ethnic group.
    3. Blow the fodder back in their face
    4. They will never make a sly racist comment to you again.

    For instance, this white man says blacks need to stop talking about slavery, you tell him pinks need to stop whining about terrorism, nazis, world war two, hitler, communism, and raping animals and children. You need to go nuclear on these whites. Nothing is sacred. There is no such thing as a white who is not racist. That was your first mistake in my book. Whites operate off of an environment of confusion. They confuse non-whites primarily by:
    1. Falsely making non-whites believe they are not all racist.
    2. Blaming non-whites for things they know are white people's fault.

    At the very least, all whites are racist in the sense that they all practice passive racism by doing nothing to dismantle the system of white supremacy which is evil. How good of a cop can you be when you see other cops shooting, kidnapping, beating and robbing but don't arrest them? How good of a soldier can you be if you see your fellow soldier raping children and women against the law and don't do nothing to stop them?

    Racism has nothing to do with a white person liking you. That is the definition of bigotry.

    Racism = group power + group privilege

    What you describe is no different than how some whites were slavers, held slaves and treated them "relatively well" but continued to maintain white supremacist institutions of slavery and discrimination. The white individual who sleeps with you, is not giving up group power or group privilege. As such all white individuals are racists.
     
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