Regardless of the definition, the basis of tantric love making is on honest and open communication, and creating intimacy between partners before the sexual act itself. Even though some claim that sex is best when it is wild and without emotions, tantra is the total opposite. In tantra, before making love, you need to dance, sing, cuddle, open your heart, and what is the most important – communicate. First of all the skills of deepening intimacy are developed, and after that love is made in which the participants of tantra can enjoy for hours. It's believed in classic Tantra that if two people cultivate and practice the art of Tantric union (intentfull sexual intercourse) that their combined energies would form a pathway to the divine. Their joy and bliss would fill their household with love, and that, in turn, would make their children happy and flow over into the whole community. Everyone would benefit from this practice of conscious loving. Tantric union enables healing to take place as well by using the powerful energy of creation to blast through ego, fear, and illusions. Tantric union is not a path to sexual indulgence or self-gratification, and like with anything in life, due diligence must be followed if looking for a teacher to train with. Tantric union isn't just a matter of techniques. If that's all it took, everyone would be Tantric masters at loving. There are enough books on sexual technique to keep you reading for a lifetime. It takes a spiritual relationship with oneself first, in order to create that path with another. A spiritual relationship makes sexual union a magical space, not the other way around. Learning to be conscious of our sexual energy can enhance not only our lovemaking, but also our entire lives. Sexual energy is the most powerful force that we have; when harnessed it can be used for more creativity and life enjoyment.