Black Relationships : Confusion...

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  1. Anita J

    Anita J Active Member MEMBER

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    I wrote this for one of my sisters because her situation puzzled me. I usually can say something but I didn't know what to tell her when she asked me what she should do.

    Lately she's been
    Unable to see her reflection in his eyes
    Part of her self to this action does despise
    But it's the truth
    He loves her deep
    Like
    Valleys in the Earth's Crater
    But clouds have covered the reflective pools in his optics
    So she can't see her soul mate
    Can't see why they are together other than
    The fact that they have this
    Comfort Zone
    That she loves him like an old poem
    That she wrote
    And that he loves her more than any man has ever loved her before
    Doesn't she have a responsibility to love, to his love, therefore
    To never break nor drop the heart he gave to her
    To keep forever?
    She's not falsifying her feelings
    It's just in solitude when doubt seems to storm
    Yet time alone she feels she needs
    And craves at times
    So she is stuck
    And this is where she exists
    Today
    In Confusion...

    Any advice for her?
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    indeed

    she need to find herself of self to know
    wha she wants in life out of a man
    and know of love to love by heart
    i agree wit Kem coz he said da magic wordz
    she should know by now less it's a problem
    wit her knowing whom and what to love
    she can't see self in him coz she blanked his
    emotional mind out ......i wish her luck....:confused:
     
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    Anita...

    One of the most important aspects
    of a relationship is communication.
    A person should feel comfortable
    conveying their feelings, if not,
    that is a issue within itself.
    If she is unhappy, for whatever reason
    she should voice her feelings.
    What she receives from the talk
    should make whatever decision
    she needs to choose plausible.


    Epiphany :heart:
     
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    communication

    is KEY!!! She should be honest about her feelings and not lead the man on. That would not be fair to him or her.
     
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    did she listen to da drum beat
    or did she stay to his play ?????

    without togetherness their is no us ...
     
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    Anita J Active Member MEMBER

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    badum badum..

    she heard the drums beatin' y'all....glad to say. she finally broke down and talked to him about what she was going through...i did copy this and email all your responses to her. she listened which is cool. she started realizing that he loved her enough to want to always work things out and that began to loosen the blockage that ceased the flow of love within her.

    thanks y'all for your words of truth. communication is key.

    oh and they are back on track working thangs out together like they ought to.

    1 L O V E

    peace and blessings unto you...
    always,
    anita j.
     
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    BLAQ LOVE POURAHTREE Nefertum Husia Shayheh MEMBER

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    The hue-man relationship is often confusing as they see only themselves...go back to those words and just slow them down for a second. I didn't get wise overnight so the confusion kept spinning me in circles until i saw friends and spectators all around non hue-man. Getting to understand the soul plane gets you out of that emotional plane to be everywhere at once probably leading you into, well for me, shamanism though a higher sense of consciousness to include being a sage. I still have that joker inside to keep the extra funnies of youthful times bouncing but when i felt empty after not fulfilling myself i turned off the path of confusion and near insanity. Those were the woods of unknown...i needed to get deeper and no other hue-man of the opposite gender wanted to and see my journey is like a twin association ever since i could remember from being smaller as a child. I just cannot be like anyone else so i decided to stay true to myself just be me regardless if i come up against a blockage though not being hardheaded but being sound of my inner self and not a constant outer worldly perception. So in order for me to be that sage, i need me to be free and around silence as humanity for me has been experienced at a fast pace from top to bottom seriously. I know how to run people. I know how to stop people. I know how to start people. I know how to feel people. I just know but not mister know-it-all you smell me?? Can never be that but i can enjoy giving you wisdom but being careful not letting it master me or me master you in the form of knowledge as a young man, then again as a older man...what you see?? I ask people all the time to get their perception while on my journey and the answers vary so i graph them to come up with a shape of existence so i can match it up to the heavens above hoping it creates a destiny of enlightenment or a musical composition of notes when i hold the keyboard up to the skies hitting keys point to point. Don't be confused by these words or ideas you can't see and find yourself from the heart of no-one else's sea or ocean so you can dwell in peace soul deep bubbling up your intelligence smiling happily finally drowning absolutely completed...release your damned and stop conning your fusion of strength who provides foresight within versatility rightfully indefinite mile.

    (Diary of a Black Man: Just An Illusion) Copyright 2014
     
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