- Jan 12, 2006
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Isaiah said:Not because African Women arent' completely worthy of every compliment they get, but because some sisters project feelings of suspicion and unworthiness... They don't seem comfortable with being showered with compliments, as if they do not feel beautiful, sexy, and wonderful...
As a man, you feel you are fighting against her image of herself, and as a result, the whole process of getting aquainted becomes a chore, weighted down by negative vibrations... Even a simple and generic hello is something a brother has to THINK about before he actually does it... Hence, as sister Spicy Brown wants to know, that's why yawl be getting them stares, instead of some convo...
There's a simple solution to that problem, my sisters, and that is to simply let the brother know in some way, that you appreciate his compliments. As yawl are the uncrowned masters of non-verbal communication, that should not be difficult, but...(smile!)
Bottom line is that just as you all are not obligated to speak or smile at a brother when he greets you, so too, you are not necessarily entitled to those compliments we shower on ya... One day, some of you will have only the memories of days when you were told how fiiiiiiiiiine you were... Show a brother how much you appreciate his compliments today, and perhaps those tomorrows will not be filled with your tears...
Peace!
Isaiah
I am guilty of this
I was going to the store and this guy said hi, my mind was elsewhere and I just looked at him like who the fluck are you? I realized I was wrong and i told I'm sorry and said hello back!
I'm also that way sometimes about my weight.
The guy I'm seeing now always says he loves my shape!
He told me I was porportioned and shapely and I have the smallest prettiest feet and hands, oh and he loves my ***! I didn't know how to perceive it at first, going through other peoples insults and put downs about being above a size 7.