Black Relationships : Complicated.......

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  1. I-khan

    I-khan Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Questions: From your perspective,do people complicate 'relationships' or are 'relationships' complicated naturally?

    By whose standards and cultural methods do you measure your 'love' and such?

    Do you by into contemporary notions about 'love' and 'emotions' being 'all powerfull' or do you tend to think for yourself?

    I have my own opinion but I NEED to know yours...so I can learn to get a different perspective.
     
  2. sweettee29

    sweettee29 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    ACTUALLY I-khan I TEND TO FEEL THAT PEOPLE MAKE RELATIONSHIPS COMPLICATED SIMPLY BECAUSE EVEN IF IT IS NATURALLY COMPLICATED IT TAKES PEOPLE TO EGG ON CERTAIN SITUATIONS, WHEN THEY ARE NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO LET SOME THINGS GO. THEN ONE SHOULD ALSO REALIZE WHAT SHOULD BE LET GO AND WHAT SHOULD NOT BE LET GO SO EASILY.

    AND AS FOR MY STANDARDS OF LOVE I HAVE MY OWN STANDARDS OF RESPECT, AND LOYALTY, AND LOVE THAT I WILL GIVE AND RECIEVE

    AND AS FOR CONTEMPORARY LOVE AND EMOTIONS I DISMISS THESE FADS AND FOCUS ON MY OWN LIFE AND MY OWN SITUATIONS

    MUCH MUCH LOVE SWEETTEE29
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    I too strongly believe people make relationships what they is
    when it become complicated it's more so often because people
    who enter it or thy mate who not feeling it that makes it seem as
    if relationships are more a myth then real .

    I follow my own lead but grew into such standard from watching my
    parents warmth and love how they worked together as mates is my
    biggest teacher and admires to match for the long term .

    surely i allow myself to do the thinking for me and what's best for me
    beyond comparing from another couple.
     
  4. cursed heart

    cursed heart Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    The complications come where communication ends.
    When you court each other you have dislikes and likes.
    The one thing to remember is that noone is perfect but everyones has their own idea of what they will or wont put up with.
    When you start to compromise your needs for your wants and you don't express or impose these upon the relationship, you will run into baracades.
    Peace!:spinstar:
     
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    sonnee01 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Hey I-kan.... well I think people in general are complicated, so having said that, of course I think it's people that make relationships complicated.
     
  6. Sweet baby_face

    Sweet baby_face Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    I second that emotion!!
     
  7. sweettee29

    sweettee29 Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    STR8 UP SISTAH SWEET BABY FACE

    SWEETTEE, LOV
     
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    Sweet baby_face Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Yeah,I do.
    For all the "COMPLICATED" relationships,
    some people need to grow up and be in love with
    theirselves before they love someone else.
     
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    $$RICH$$ Lyon King Admin. STAFF

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    so true to love is to love thy self first
    when there's no communication between
    mates it always bring deep depth of complication.

    Yes the answer is:: People make relationships complicated
     
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