NNQueen said:Happy...one comment you made that I thought addressed one of my questions was that you don't think that a person has to give up their "blackness" while in an interracial relationship. I'm going to be fair and also apply that theory to a white person as well. The two public people that come immediately to my mind as an example of this are the former senator and now deposed Strom Thurmond and Thomas Jefferson. I don't know that much about Barkley other than his career as an athlete so I'll have to take your word that he's a strong advocate for the Black community while married to a white woman. Personally, I just can't figure out how to separate the two mindsets. Hopefuly by the end of this discussion I'll have figured it out.
Queenie
Okay, so is this kind of relationship an inferior/superior type relationship? Do you think that when Blacks are in such a relationship that they feel themselves inferior and to be in such a relationship means that they are less inferior?
I think that We know that there are some who think just like that. I don't know if that answers the question or not. It doesn't for me; because then one only have to say; so there is not really real love b/t Blacks and Whites?
I know that on both sides of the spectrum when you have Blacks who claim some affiliation with the Black community; that Blacks and Whites criticize these persons for being married or whatever to Whites. So, I guess that society also thinks that the two mindsets cannot be separated.
Maybe this is why many AA's in these types of relationships go crazy...maybe this is why so many of them lose their souls.