- Apr 22, 2003
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What disciplinary actions do you take with children who steal? I am experiencing a 10 year old who steals. She is not my child but she is like my child. I say this because she is here at my flat alot. On several ocassions I suspected that she was stealing from my house, But I did'nt want to accuse her unless I was sure. I was reluctant to inform her mother because I was'nt sure it was in fact her.
I have a large family full of children. My neighborhood is fruitful as well. Children flock to my house because they are friends of my children, neices, and nephews whom ages range from 14-4. If they are hungry or lonely or need someone to talk to or even just a place to go, my door is always opened.
When I was young, my mother was the same way and so am I. Well anyway, this child has stolen small things like a box of cake mix, earrings, and recently two coins that I collected. I asked my niece about it and if she had seen anyone with them. Her mouth dropped and just as I suspected it was this young child. I confronted her and asked her about it but of course she denied it. I told her that she did'nt have to lie to me but to admit that she was wrong. But she did'nt. So I told her that I was going to tell her mom in hopes that she would confess. Usually when she has done something I tell her this and she in turn tells her mom before I do and we discuss it.
However when I told her mother of this incident, although I sensed she doubted this, she still heard me out and admitted that in the past she has stolen from her. Her boyfriend asked me about it and replyed that he did'nt know her to steal as to accenuate that she don't. He suggested that I don't let her in my house anymore but my heart can't do that. I know here mother's situation with trying to hold down two jobs to support her family and she is gone most of the times.
Her partner is not her children's father and has'nt been around that long nor does he interfere with disciplining her two girls because of a past experience with another woman and her children. I know I am putting myself at risk of her stealing again, but I can't close my door on her. She is just a child who needs her mother to be home more but her mother needs to work to keep a roof over their heads. I just was wondering, what suggestions do you have for dealing with a child who steals?
I have a large family full of children. My neighborhood is fruitful as well. Children flock to my house because they are friends of my children, neices, and nephews whom ages range from 14-4. If they are hungry or lonely or need someone to talk to or even just a place to go, my door is always opened.
When I was young, my mother was the same way and so am I. Well anyway, this child has stolen small things like a box of cake mix, earrings, and recently two coins that I collected. I asked my niece about it and if she had seen anyone with them. Her mouth dropped and just as I suspected it was this young child. I confronted her and asked her about it but of course she denied it. I told her that she did'nt have to lie to me but to admit that she was wrong. But she did'nt. So I told her that I was going to tell her mom in hopes that she would confess. Usually when she has done something I tell her this and she in turn tells her mom before I do and we discuss it.
However when I told her mother of this incident, although I sensed she doubted this, she still heard me out and admitted that in the past she has stolen from her. Her boyfriend asked me about it and replyed that he did'nt know her to steal as to accenuate that she don't. He suggested that I don't let her in my house anymore but my heart can't do that. I know here mother's situation with trying to hold down two jobs to support her family and she is gone most of the times.
Her partner is not her children's father and has'nt been around that long nor does he interfere with disciplining her two girls because of a past experience with another woman and her children. I know I am putting myself at risk of her stealing again, but I can't close my door on her. She is just a child who needs her mother to be home more but her mother needs to work to keep a roof over their heads. I just was wondering, what suggestions do you have for dealing with a child who steals?