Based on a request from Jamesfrmphilly, I am starting a thread asking the question: how much for women does child-bearing age factor into what she needs to let her mate know up front before dating him? Some of the men here have said let them know what you want in a relationship. Some have also said they are interested in something long-term but not marriage. This is fine, but from my own sphere of experience a lot of women want marriage, at least from what they say. They also want children. So how much focus should a woman put on that? Should she let her date know up front that she wants marriage and children (if that is what she wants), or just have fun? What happens when the woman gets older... we all know women can't make babies forever. Now, before people respond, considering what most know about my background, it's not unreasonable for me to say let's TRY to keep this focused towards BM/BF relationships, because that's what is the MOST reflective of people here. Please share your perspective if your PRIMARY goal is to find a BM: you've dated BM and/or you're married or were married to a BM. If comments are made NOT related to this, then a separate thread addressing them will be created. For the context of this discussion, the term BM (black male) can be whatever you indivdiually define it as. Also, the men of Destee are welcome to respond.