CHERRYBLOSSOM: HARASSMENT

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  1. skuderjaymes

    skuderjaymes Contextualizer Synthesizer MEMBER

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    This is a HARASSMENT complaint levied against user
    CHERRYBLOSSOM for her behavior yesterday, DEC. 16 between 5:54 pm
    and 6:17pm.

    Background:

    At 4:10 PM yesterday, I created a thread in the SUGGESTION forum entitled:
    "MALICIOUS USE OF THE THANK YOU FEATURE."

    The post was a legitimate suggestion. It did not mention any names or
    situations specifically. it was about functionality and how maliciously
    intended "thank yous" subverted the intended effect of the LATEST
    REPUTATION RECEIVED window. I had not corresponded with
    CHERRYBLOSSOM since the end of our last run-in on DEC. 6 (10 days
    before), so this post was not, as it has been suggested, some sort of under-
    handed attack on her. I am direct and specific in my posts.. and, as I said,
    it had been 10 days since our last spat. moving on...

    This is what my Reputation Received window normally looks like:
    [​IMG]

    I consider to be a collection of appreciation. It is the place where I can
    feel the appreciation of others on Destee. I like that, and I articulated that
    in my suggestion. I likened malicious thank you's to psychological warfare.

    shortly before, I made this suggestion, I sent a GENERAL QUESTION from my
    profile page to the management asking if it was possible to remove these 5
    thank yous that sat in the middle of my REPUTATION RECEIVED box. The
    were all from CHERRYBLOSSOM and they were all Maliciously intended.
    Meaning, they were made during and after a disagreement.. and they were
    intended to communicate discontent, which is the opposite of what the
    THANK YOU feature was created for. My request was private and was really
    a question about the technical possibility of removing the thank yous..
    it wasn't a complaint about CHERRYBLOSSOM.. I had dealt with her myself
    over 10 days ago and had, since then added and removed her from my
    IGNORE LIST.

    getting back to the timeline..

    at 4:33, just over 20 minutes later, CHERRYBLOSSOM responded
    to my suggestion with this:

    [​IMG]
    Which, in light of the fact that she knows that she is the main perpetrator of
    what I call "Malicious Thank Yous", is an attempt to minimize my suggestion
    and simultaneously take a swipe at me by THANKing my suggestion in the
    same Malicious way she has in every conflict that we have had.


    She writes her posts in a way that would appear, from the outside to be
    harmless, but when taken the full context of action, they are aggressive,
    offensive and just plain mean-spirited. I know she knows it because, I
    mentioned it to her a couple of times before.

    here's an example from another conflict:



    [​IMG]


    getting back to the timeline..

    at 4:58 pm, I responded to CHERRYBLOSSOMs response with this:


    [​IMG]

    which rebuked her attempt to talk-down my request and made her aware
    that she had been on my ignore list. I had recently felt that the tension
    between her and I could be pushed aside, so I took her off IGNORE and I
    even thanked one of her posts on my thread entitled US AND OUR BOYS.
    This suggestion of mine, was an attempt to remove these remnants of past
    disputes from my USER CONTROL PANEL which I use as my startup page. I
    wanted to push this all back and move forward.


    at 5:54 pm, Over an hour later, CHERRYBLOSSOM responded with
    this: This appears to be the end of our spat, but is really just the beginning.

    at 5:57pm, 3 minutes later CHERRYBLOSSOM begins a maliciously intended attack on every one of my recent posts. for the next
    20 minutes
    she pulls up and THANKS each one of my posts with the
    intent of filling my previously mentioned REPUTATION RECEIVED window
    with thank yous that, given the context of their delivery are meant
    in a mean spirit and are more along the lines of the F-word or "go to hell".

    Here's a screen shot of my window:

    [​IMG]
    at 6:28 , I took this screen shot of my REPUTATION RECEIVED window
    and posted it for everyone to see. After CHERRYBLOSSOM saw that I
    could produce a visual record of what she had done, she began her campaign
    of trying to confuse the issue with a lot of words that are all over the place.
    She does this whenever she knows she wrong, she attempts to talk you
    down with long posts full of conflicting ideas and images. Asking, as she
    does here, in a suddenly docile and innocent voice attempting to confuse
    the issue and influence those that will be called to pass judgement on her
    behavior.

    [​IMG],

    I'd like to call attention to the fact that my complaint is about the actions
    of CHERRYBLOSSOM on DEC. 16TH between 5:54 and 6:17. I'd also ask
    that you take note that this all came from a constructive SUGGESTION, not
    a complaint against CHERRYBLOSSOM as it has been suggested.

    ok.. almost done..

    I had been engaged in a dialoge with Clyde Cooger over in the
    COMPLAINTS forum regarding 360 thread. He had earlier explained
    to me how the discipline system worked here on destee.

    at 7:08 I asked for his advice on how to handle this situation with CHERRYBLOSSOM. He advised me to basically just let it go because the
    posts I had made already would serve as my complaint.. cool..

    At 7:57, I posted my last response to CHERRYBLOSSOM.



    As you consider my complaint, I'd like to ask you all (managers/moderators/admins) also to take a long hard look
    at the way CHERRYBLOSSOM operates on these boards. It is my opinion
    that her behavior is out of control and has a stifling effect on the entire
    environment here at Destee.com. Her tactics are deceitful and manipulative
    and stand in direct conflict to what this board strives to be.

    I'm prepared to humbly accept whatever conclusion you come to and
    whatever judgment you may hand down. I stand behind every word that I
    have written here on Destee.com and I submit that my only purpose here
    has been to share and to learn and to commune with the beautiful people
    here. If you have any questions about what I have posted here, please feel
    free to ask.

    Thank You.
     
  2. truetothecause

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    BlackTasTically Done as is very well stated and good use of visual supports.

    I'm reminded again of Brother Neely Fuller's words...of how white supremacist use words to confuse.

    Does that mean I am "calling" cherryblossom a white supremacist? NO

    What it does mean is that your style of communicating is consistent with white supremacist thinking and behaving.

    Does that mean I never do so:?: NO

    It is what supports my PERPETUAL state of RE~Covery...making an effort to NOT go there..first.

    Have to go off to the plantation now. I AM enslaved in amerikkka.


    THANKS SKUDERJAYMES for Doing what I was unable to do. Stating this case in such a clear, coherent and concise manner..in writing!:toast:
    M.E.
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    Thank you for your patience's Brother skuderjaymes!

    I apologize for the delay in response to your suggestion in the suggestion forum. As i sit here and read over the onslaught of complaints that has been appearing lately, i had to sit back an bring myself to a state of peace as to not get caught up in the cycle of anguish and frustration. But here i am now.

    I must agree, that Sister Cherry Blossom's reaction to your request has border the lines of harassment and ridicule. I will be issuing her warning for her behavior of such.

    As for member's removing "Thank you's", in a post, this is something that has never been considered and didn't present an issue until now. I'm not even sure if our server is equip to do that. I can also see another dilemma presenting it's self if we were to do this. We would have members maliciously removing "Thank you's" just because they don't like another. Not because their thanks wasn't sincere, but rather because one doesn't like another....And that is not what we are about here. We want to bring us together. Encourage healthy interaction regardless of our differences. We have been divided for so long now, it is time we find ways to work with each other, not continue to push each other apart.

    Nonetheless Brother skuderjaymes, i will bring this to the attention of management. I can not guarantee that any changes will be made, but consideration will be taken. When/if a final decision has been made, i will post the decision here.

    Again, Thank you for your patience!

    :heart:
     
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    Board made a good decision (not so much a decision, but nonetheless) and Brother SkuderJames came correct with this one.

    Hope it resolves Brother SJ and Sister CB.

    One,

    - Ikoro
     
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    lol
     
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    Brother SkuderJaymes ... i agree with Sister Purple, in that the above and much of what was going on when you posted this complaint, bordered on harassment and disrespect.

    Not to diminish this complaint, we now have even higher standards moving forward, and we're not going back addressing old stuff.

    In addition, as it relates directly to your complaint ... that a "Thank You" is a disrespectful thing ... well ... we really can't get that deep with the resources we have.

    I'm sure it, a Thank You, can be made to be an ugly thing, but it's just so much easier for us to keep it as we've always known it to be, a kind gesture.

    If you want to receive it as a negative, that's your choice, but we can't help you moderate it inside yourself.

    If you have any questions, let me know.

    Love You!

    :heart:

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    Sister Cherry ... you're riding a fine line.

    :heart:

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    hey.. I wouldn't mind if you deleted the whole thread... it's all water under
    the bridge to me.. I'm cool..


    -Peace.
     
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    YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY :toast:

    My Pleasure!

    Love You!

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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