Black Relationships : "Cheating" on someone who is Married

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  1. legit-writer

    legit-writer Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Aside a person cheating on their spouse which is considered 'cheating on someone who is married' (before someone uses that to be a smarty pants lol) if a married person starts a relationship with someone and that someone finally gets tired and starts dating someone else, would you call that cheating still or is it automatically void because the person that they had a relationship prior to finally getting tired of it all and went ahead and found someone else?
     
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    I don't think you can cheat on someone who's already cheating on someone. They are breaking a bond that was supposed to mean something between them and their significant other, and to me, they can't form any real bonds while that's being done, so it's not cheating for someone else to sort of repeat the behavior on them.
     
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    A person who is married is cheating, those who get involved should realise that the relationship will lead to a dead end. How can a cheater call someone a cheater.:(
     
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    even if they're (the person and their spouse) no longer speaking to one another and has moved out and hasn't had any contact with them for a while, like say, a year and they don't have the money get a divorce at the moment?
     
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    Well, in my faith, so long as there is the bond of marriage, they are still one body until divorce. Even if they aren't speaking and haven't seen each other for a time, any relationship with another is still adultery(cheating), so yes, it would still be the same; no other person can really cheat on them, but can betray their trust, so to speak.
     
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    The married person doesn't get to claim foul. The unmarried has a right to seek someone of their own





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    this reminds me of the phrase ... "honor amongst thieves" ... :thinking:

    and ... "oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive" ... :thinking:

    and ... the song ... "your husband is cheating on us" ... by denise lasalle ... :)

    Your Husband Is Cheatin' On Us - Denise Lasalle

    i think those involved are ... "cheating themselves" ... by living in such a lie-filled space

    :heart:

    Destee
     
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    okay, let's keep it real, here. if the person you're involved with is married, you knew that going in. if the two of you have a relationship...and have boundaries within that relationship...and you break those rules/go beyond those boundaries, without letting that person know...you're cheating. yes, you have a right to find someone. but, so does the married person.

    the first thing you would tell anyone is to get out of the relationship you're in before moving on. it doesn't matter if the person you're involved with is married or not, you're in a relationship with that person. GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP FIRST...THEN MOVE ON. Otherwise, you're cheating.
     
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    :huh2:

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    you have a right to find someone. but, so does the married person. :thinking:
    Baller what are you saying?:(
     
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