jamesfrmphilly said:i don't think you contact them. they contact you.
This is most correct. The Ancestors are in constant contact. Many times we are just unaware of this contact because we are not "Open" to recieve their Spiritual Communion with Us.
This is why I warn others concerning seeking spiritual "mediums".
They may work for some people but I know there are folks even here who have raised concerns related to some of their own experiences which indicate they have opened themselves up not to their ancestors but other "dark forces" which actually BLOCK contact from our Ancestral Spirits.