The date is 1/16/06 The time is 8pm until. This will be a first in a series of clssses which will be done simultaneously with Brother Chat. Please be there to help lay the foundation of this class. The topic and subtopics are voluntary participation. However after viewing the subtopics below there may be some place you might want to participate or contribute. Below the definition is a complete outline of possiblities. There may be some things we are unable to address if we have full participation and would then be followed up at a later date. Voluteering to be a co facilitator is encouraged. Cheating and Adultery Adultery noun voluntary sexual activity (as sexual intercourse) between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband; also : the crime of adultery —compare FORNICATION —adul·ter·er /&-'d&l-t&-r&r/ noun —adul·ter·ess /-t&-r&s/ noun n : extramarital sex that willfully and maliciously interferes with marriage relations; "adultery is often cited as grounds for divorce" [syn: criminal conversation, fornication] Cheating adj 1: not faithful to a spouse or lover; "adulterous husbands and wives"; "a two-timing boyfriend" [syn: adulterous, cheating(a), two-timing(a)] 2: violating accepted standards or rules; "a dirty fighter"; "used foul means to gain power"; "a nasty unsporting serve"; "fined for unsportsmanlike behavior" [syn: cheating(a), dirty, foul, unsporting, unsportsmanlike] n : a deception for profit to yourself [syn: cheat] 1. What are your experiences with family and cheating, how did it affect your choices? 2. In your family or personal relationship did cheating or adultery create an outside child? How did this affect your self-esteem and or your sexuality? Were you able to get to a place where you accepted the child and their needs? How did it affect your relationship? Was your relationship able to survive this challenge? 3. Are you the product of a cheating parent and how did it feel growing up with this knowledge. 4. Have you had to raise a child born out of a partner’s infidelity? 5. Have you had to deal with the issue of rape, molestation or incest, which your partner used as a tool for outside stimulation? How did you deal with the issue, was an effort made to protect the physical and or mental health of the minor in question. How did you give support to self-dealing with the issue? How did it affect your sexuality? 6. When you were dating did you think it was important to ask about how he and his family felt about fidelity and what was the expectation of faithfulness? How did openness on this subject help or hinder your relationship. Did you ignore any warning signs? 7. When you experienced cheating or adultery in your relationship how did it affect your body and mind. Did it create a change in your response to sex with your partner? How did you overcome it? What do you think it will take to heal from this? 8. In dealing with the issues of cheating and adultery have you dealt with a partner that chose to cheat with a man? How did you feel to learn that he had this inclination? How did it feel to know he crossed that line and came back to you? Is divorce or ending your relationship an option? Do you take this personally and why? 9. Have you been tempted to cheat or have an adulterous relationship? How did you deal with it? Did knowing how other people deal with this situation affect your decision? 10. What are the messages that today’s women get about cheating and adultery? How do you think that affects how they choose a partner or a mate? 11. How have you experienced adultery or cheating? How was the situation resolved? 12. Are there any of you or someone you know that overcame this situation without divorcing, that feel they have some positive advice for a negative ordeal? 13. Has internet porn affected your relationship and you view it as adultery or cheating? How did it affect your self esteem and your relationship? Was he or you able to tolerate the new boundaries of not using the venue for stimulation or an outlet?. Did the problem develop into an addiction and was counseling sought?