Riada said:I agree that arranged marriages would be a GREAT idea for many AA's, but I think many here would have to grow up under that system. There is also the issue of "love." We're used to the idea of being "in love" here. Many traditional Africans have a totally different concept about that aspect of a relationship. Maybe "living in harmony" could replace "being in love." As you know, the African extended family as well as the extended family in these other societies help to keep the marriages harmonious because many times "older heads" or other "wiser" heads get involved to help the married couple to smoothen things out all the way throughout the marriage. Without the extended families, there would be many more divorces among continental Africans too. Their family system, rooted in their culture, is very valuable and is the one thing that's holding those societies together when all else has failed them. If they ever lose their family system, then heaven help them!!
Agreed Riada!
That's why I agree with you wholeheartedly when you say, AAs aren't going to make much progress, no matter what, until the family system here is fixed.
This is our #1 issue, everything else and I mean EVERYTHING ELSE, is a secondary concern!