Black Relationships : can the first peson u ever date be the one????

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  1. sprite112

    sprite112 New Member MEMBER

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    First off I am 24 and the man i am dating is 21. I have been dating this man for almost 7 months. He loves me very much. However, lately we have been having some problems. THe main argument that we have been having is about me not dating anyone else before i met him. I belive that a person needs to date many people before settleing down with just one person. He however belives that past relationships just make it more confusing and hard for the next realationship. Is it possible that you can find someone to spend the rest of your life with, with the first boyfriend that you ever had? Or am i setting myself up for regrets later on...... Desperately needs help to save this relationship!
     
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    Love in the air .........YES u can fine love at once upon da soulmate
    no ur not setting self up for any regrets nor shame
    u can love one as one so loveth u
    if da emotional feels is their who to change them
    it's what yo heart feel
    how ya mind thinks of him
    and the way he feel & think about u
    now the small problem one pose is to love as many
    not so true u can fine happiness in the first mate u feel true
    allow ya heart to be ya guide
    express self upon him that pass has nothing on now
    ya heart feels his love as u so loveth he as the soulmate

    now we sometime move wrong and yes love can misguide us
    in paths of heartbreak at times but that's life in life we live
    but if he feels the way u do then love is in the air to new high
    it's in the heart !
    da answer u already know !
    NOW WELCOME SPRITE112 WELCOME TO DESTEE PLACE
    AS I SEND MY WISDOM OF LOVE UPON THIS UNION OF LOVE
    I WELCOME THEE OPENLY UPON FAMILY & FRIENDZ
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    AS U FLOW .... WELCOME AND GOOD LUCK ......U CAN LOVE ONE
    THE FIRST AND ONLY ....,,,, FROM ABOVE I WATCH AS I FLY LOW
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    Regina Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    You stated in your post, "He loves me very much." How do you feel about your boyfriend?

    You must ask yourself some hard questions and answer in an honest manner.

    Is your desire to date others greater than your desire to stay with him? Decide what you really want, without the outside influences of family, friends, society and your boyfriend.

    Do you feel you need to date others because you might miss out on something? Are you dating just to date or to gain sexual experience? How will you feel if you date others and realize you want him back and he has found someone else?

    It is possible to find a soulmate in your first relationship.

    Whatever you decide, be honest with yourself and with your boyfriend.
     
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    again i say yes u can !
     
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    hi sprite

    1st, welcome 2 desty :wave:

    now, 2 ur ? possible? yes. likely? no.

    is it possible 2 hit a home run ur 1st time at bat? possible? yes, likely, no. is it possible 2 pick the best apple out of a barrell, even f u ve never tasted/picked an apple b4? possible, yes. likely, no.

    no, i m not saying chosing a mate/partner is a lot like playing baseball or picking apples. i m saying that n relationships, like n basball or apple picking, experience can help. yes, there is a downside 2 experience, just as there is a downside to life, but there is also a substantial upside. there r risks either way u go. i think its gr8 that the two of u hv found e/o & r working at making a lasting relationship at such a young age. i don t think there shld b any mad dash to the alter, though.

    i m not sure at 21, many ppl know much about how they would like 2 spend the rest of their lives, though i m sure many of them believe they do. hv u discussed this weighty matter w ur parents, a close & trusted friend, or w some1 at ur church (f u go 2 church)? doesen t mean u hv to do what they say, but it might b worth ur while 2 hear their thoughts.

    f it is tru that both of u r deeply n luv w e/o, i can think of no reason y such strong feelings could not endure an intermission of limited duration. yes, ur friend could find some1 else, but f said friends feelings r that transferable, what does that suggest about his feelings towards u? of course, i know way too little about ur relationship to offer any specific suggestions. i believe that f u look nside ur heart, u already know which course u wish to follow. i hope u don t let any 'advice' from me, or any1 else disuade u from what ur heart tells u.

    regardless of which way u go, please keep us informed. ur part of the destee family now. :love:
     
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    BLAQ LOVE POURAHTREE Nefertum Husia Shayheh MEMBER

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    "Depending on the two lovers' timing at the crossroads and their ability to stop, sow, reap, yield, store, remember and grow together is their summary."

    (Diary of a Black Man: Just An Illusion) Copyright 2014
     
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