Can stress kill intimacy?

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  1. nevar

    nevar Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    My fiance is a proud man. He cant provide like he wants because of the job market. I pretty much hold it down for me and our kids. He isnt a talker but rather keep his frustration to himself. When he do make some change or money. He turns around and give me his last to me and our girls. Tell me how I can get him to open up, and can stress,frustation kill intimacy? I would like any feedback on this!
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    Peace, My sista!
    From what I know keeping in stress, fustration for too long is bad for you.
    if he can't open up to you, then he needs to find an outlet where he can open up and release his woes. (Also, do U know WHY he/keeps it to himself/ cannot open up to you?)

    Even guys aren't tough all the time..
    and keeping in stress: your stomach produces more acid in response to stress, which can in some rare cases contribute to symptoms of stomach ulcers.
    And yes, it can effect intamacy...
    if his urges are not effected, then his performance & endurance can be.
    Men can get aroused easily, but it doesn't neccasrily mean he is in the mood.

    But whatever the issue, I hope U and him pull thru'
     
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    thank for your input!
     
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    let him be

    he helps out when he can that shows something to me
    i also see he feels there's nothing to talk about

    sometimes men say why talk about the obvious

    he doing his best and as long as he respects you and you care for him
    there should be no problems you both know what it is

    it's just a question of how far are you willing to go

    if the situation doesn't affect the way you feel about each other
    then don't make it one
     
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    Firstly and to answer you: yes stress/fustration can over kill intimacy
    he seem to be trying and in the act getting fustrated , if he giving his last
    and doing what he can , he could be stressin from the lack of is where you
    come in as his support and upliftment to asure it will get better .

    Secondly preasure can be harmful and dangerous , there are many men who
    wish not to talk about things that seem to kill there manhood or lack of , they
    rather try harder or figure it out themselves like a task or accomplishment
    do stress that communication is key in any relationship and you understand,be
    positive in his direction and allow him time to make a change smile and praise him
    somewhat for what little he do because it shows he trying , he seem to be a true
    at heart and love's you dearly .....keep that fire high with love of your own by
    showing him you in his corner , watch how he freely speak and talk about things
    that bothers him or fustrated him, he will become more open in time as it get better
    and from your asuring him .

    lift him up sister he's your man !
     
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    thank you so much for your advice!:kiss2:
     
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