Black Relationships : Can a man be played out?

:hi:Sister cursed heart

I agree trust is very important to me.

I am not sure if this is related or valid.

A woman can not desire sex for long periods of time.
When a relationship with a man begins she keeps up with his sexual drive. Satisfying him in many ways. He is content and happy with his partner. He may even marry her, and the sex drives still appears to be compatible.

Then the man starts to notice, usually after child birth, the drive of his partner rolls off.

What has happened? I do understand that having children, stress and stuff like that are factors. What I am wondering is in some cases could her sex drive been false. Creating a lost of trust in a mans mind. Making those who tell other men. Never get married. The sex is cut off or stops! The intimacy they one shared tapers off. This tapering could cause the male. Or if the male tapers his intimacy for his partner can cause either of them to be open to affairs outside of the relationship.

Tossing a huge wedge into male / female relationships before they even get started. A huge trust issue into the picture.

I ask this because you mentioned the whole trust issue. Maybe more conversation when a relationship is being established would help?

This an open question to all the sisters on the site. Any clarification and comments about this are appreciated.

Now a man should understand that it may be normal for her drive to roll off and needs to study up. But young men hear about the diminished sex drive that can happen and they stay away from the marriage thing. They are very reluctant to ever commit to serious relationships.

They say.. why get serious, and married. That way the drive of the female is present, no commitment. and some say no children to distract her and eat up her energy is always great. :?:

Any insight would be appreciated and helpful.. I am not new to understanding most of this. Thanks


Hi HODEE I agree with you and this does relate!
I have alot of guy friends and that is their biggest complaint!
Most of the time men cheat for sex and women cheat for emotional fulfillment.
Also in referance to the trust issue.
Often times women take men back after cheating and continue to be faithful to him even after the fact of his unfaithfulness.
Often times when a woman cheats on a man there is no taking you back because the trust is gone! and if he does take you back he will get even trust and it will never ever be the same as before.
 
Hi HODEE I agree with you and this does relate!
I have alot of guy friends and that is their biggest complaint!
Most of the time men cheat for sex and women cheat for emotional fulfillment.
Also in referance to the trust issue.
Often times women take men back after cheating and continue to be faithful to him even after the fact of his unfaithfulness.
Often times when a woman cheats on a man there is no taking you back because the trust is gone! and if he does take you back he will get even trust and it will never ever be the same as before.

Thank You Sister
You are so correct.

What is missing was the communication. From both.
 

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