Black Relationships : Brothers vs Sisters

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  1. lovealexandria

    lovealexandria Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    My older brother hates me. He tells me that he dosent care about me. He does things that he knows upsets me and if I try to talk to him about why I am upset he completely dismisses my feelings, tells me how stupid and immature I am. I mean we are 20 and 21 years old now when is sibling rivalry suposed to end? I'll admitt that sometimes I will completely blow up and say something totaly wrong but in my defence sometimes he deserves it. I know that I have serious issues with my brother. But what really bothers me is that he is the best friend in the world. He would practacly die for his friends but he can't extend that same care and love to his own flesh and blood. How many of you have had problems with a sibling even into adulthood? And why does society dismiss sibling rivalry as something completely normal as if it cant do any lasting damage?
     
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    I couldn't answer this me and my sister are very close ....
     
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    You are very lucky then, Rich.
     
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    lovealexandria,

    Its obvious who loves who more, if you will, and that's you loving him more, I think. Try removing some of the outward love you demonstrate, and let's see if it pulls him in closer, K...Is there anyone that can referee between you two?

     
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    separate......
     
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    We usualy get along ok as long as we avoid talking to each other and I don't want to separate completely, he is my brother. Humm... maybe I should order a new one off of the internet.:bully:
     
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    Im close to my brothers n sisters in a way but yet keep my distance from them.....I had bad experiences with a child n learned to keep a certain distance from them....Im closer with other people than them....But I love em all tho n will stand by em but shall never be 100% close to any of em
     
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    Loving from a distance has been working wonders for me.

    It worked especially after I accepted that we dont have to be very close in order to have love for each other:)
     
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