Black Relationships : Brothers, honor thy mother.. does that apply to dating?

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  1. PoeticManifesta

    PoeticManifesta Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    If your mother absolutely abhored your girlfriend/wife.. future mate.. would you respect her wishes to cease the relationship? Furthmore, do you /have you dated women that shared the same qualities/similarities as your mother.. and why?

    *** Just wondering****
     
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    No mother worth honoring would try to control her son's choices when it comes to marriage or anything else in life.
     
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    If I may be so bold as to borrow scripture from my Christian family and deliver a sermon:




    Now (wipes sweat off forehead)....

    I want yall to turn to da book'a Genesis chapta two vuss Twinnay Foe...hah!

    Yeeesssss laaaawwwd..hah!

    When you get there.....say AMEN


    And we read--thus sayeth the Lord:

    Genesis 2:24 "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh"


    (loudly)

    Therefore shall a man leave

    Somebody say leave...hah.

    He said when a man LEAVE..hah....

    his muuuuuthaaaaaa HAH!

    and cleave..ha.

    Wait a minute yall don't hear meeeeeee hah!


    ....said whennnn a maaaayyaaayyaaaaan! loves a womuuuuuunn....hah!

    Can't keep his mind on nothing else...hah!

    Alriiigghht...hah!


    When a man LEAVES hah..

    leaves his mamma..haa...

    and CLEAVES..hah unto his wife...

    Then shall be..hah..ONE FLUUUUUEEEEESH...HAH.

    I said ONE...hallelujaaaah.

    Somebody say LEAVE HER...hah

    Somebody say CLEAVE HER....hah.

    Somebody say LEAVE IT TO BEAVER CLEAVER...hah..

    Can I get a witness...hah.

    Yall still don't hear meeeeeEEEeeeeEEE hah.

    Can I get a witness up in here today!

    Mmmmmmmyeeeeeeahhh....uh!

    U-riiight...hah!


    ((crying and humming ))

    This sermon has been brought to you by the Right Reverend Dr.Caldwell of the Mount Moriah Carry (me home) Missionary Church.
     
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    river Watch Her Flow MEMBER

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    AMEN
    HALLELUJAH
    GLORY TO GOD
    THANK YOU G
    YEBO

    Stone Baptist preaching for an early Sunday morning
     
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    I usually do not introduce my mother to the women I date, my mother does not and will not understand; thus I make my own decisions about women, not my mama.
     
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    I think this largely depends on ones mother. Many mothers compete with their son's girlfriends & wives for attention and affection. I find this is most common when there is no husband or father in the home. I've always trusted my mother to have my best interest in heart. I have watched her behavior towards my brother's wives, and found her to be a loving & fair mother in law. Indeed she has always had a policy of not interfering into other peoples relationships. If I brought home a woman that my mother couldn't stand, I would take her opinion seriously. I know that this is not typical behavior for her, and would trust there is legitimate reasons for her objection. This is not to say I would drop a woman on my mother's say so, but I wouldn't discount her opinion at all.

    P.S. This is all hypothetical, because my mother adores my wife.
     
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    PoeticManifesta Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Ralfa'il, you are sooooooOOooOOOooohh.. crazy.. lol.. im diggin the sermon.. beaver cleaver? lmao.. dang.. im still rolling.. i feel you though.. and Pan, thank you for takin serious thought and reflectin on the issue.. im about to meet my mother in law 2b, and im beyond nervous.. yes ive talked to her on the phone.. but .. mann... this is a heavily rooted family, with momma being the bond that holds it all together.. and shes a frikin.. Governer for petes sake.. can we say tension.. this woman has accomplished business wise, and family wise everything i want to do in life... :insane: so.. preciate the discussion.. carry on folks!
     
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    River

    Peace,
    Thanx for bearing witness love.





    Poetic

    Needless to say as you can tell from my sermon, I think a grown man should follow his heart regardless of how his mother feels and do what he thinks is best for him.

    Our parents have lived their lives, we have to live ours.
     
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    My mother saying has always been son if u like'em ( I love'em )
    but if i tell you something is wrong ( trust in moma for i love u child)
    know u are the teaching of wise choices u make in life and know it's
    your bed you have to lay in it .

    I always treasure my mom word but i know she has never enter her
    children relationship but a fair wise mom who don't uphold wrong in
    no one if i was wrong she will bust me out likewise a woman who stand
    beside me ....

    i always had the choice to make my own bed when it came to women and
    friendship / partnership / relationship / marriage / so forth but never undermind
    the worth of thy mother and what she may see that u can't surely she not out to
    hurt u but see that u be love'd completely ....
     
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    Let the choir say amen!

    Mothers do influence our choice of woman to some extent, be it physical or otherwise.
     
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