Black Relationships : Brothas would you date an unemployed sista?

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  1. MANASIAC

    MANASIAC Well-Known Member MEMBER

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    Myself yes if she is trying to move forward, no if she is not doing anything.
     
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    I know I answered in the other thread but.....my answer is no. I know that some people think that's harsh and that I'm judging. But, that's not really it. You could be a great person, but if you can't bring anything to the table economically....then you're not for me.

    I sense that people who will date unemployed people are either unemployed themselves, or just recently gained employment.

    How can an umemployed person afford to date? It has always amazed me how a person with no income can afford to waste money on entertainment when they could be using that money for better purposes.
     
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    I don't think that the employment status should be a factor. What if the sista wants to be an "at-home" mother & wife.
    Personally, when I was dating, a sista having a job or not did not come into my mind. It was their character that determined whether I stayed or went.
     
  4. Da Street So'ja

    Da Street So'ja Banned MEMBER

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    i would as long as they're looking for work

    i would even help them find a job

    i've dated unemployed women before

    i just had to pay for EVERYTHING

    i even bought "tampons"

    listen i not talking about what i bought

    i'm talking - i will buy you what you need

    but now with rents averaging $1,500 a month in NYC

    i need help now

    so you need to be working or at least have access to money

    strippers not included sorry

    lol
     
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    Da Street So'ja Banned MEMBER

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    yes


    don't forget character

    it goes along ways buddy
     
  6. jamesfrmphilly

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    back when i was dating, i always went with women who were working or in school. i never had a woman who did nothing.
    in today's economy i think it is much harder to stay employed than it was in my time. we are near a depression.
    i would be more forgiving now than i once was.

    my bottom line: i think unemployed folk need to chill.
     
  7. Nasheed

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    Yes I would and here is the reason why. My beliefs are that as a "MAN" a woman is not responsible for anything financial. Let me explain: In Islam a woman is to be taken care of by the man. If u r dating(which should only be for the purpose of marriage) it is the man's responsibility for everything. Even before u marry u must give ur woman money. So, with my beliefs I would date a woman who was not employed.
     
  8. Zulile

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    Nasheed - would you date an employed woman? or one who earns more than you?
     
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    :run: :cardio: If she is working towards a degree or lookig for work, why not? But if she is a welfare queen...:nono: :qqb013: :SuN026: :insane:
     
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    Again - it is about CHARACTER - not employment status.
     
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