Black Relationships : Breaking Up ... what is the best way to meet someone new?

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  1. LB2000L

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    After a relationship has ended, what is the best way to meet someone new?
     
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    fortunately, for you...being of the female persuasion...all you have to do is walk out of your house...and someone will approach you; men are always looking for a good woman. i'm not saying THAT SOMEONE will be what you're looking for, but you will have met someone...new. however, don't you want to know what went wrong in the previous relationship...and what you need to do to bring yourself up to speed...if you had any shortfalls while you were in that relationship. we all want to believe we're totally faultless when a relationship ends...but, realistically, both sides, generally, share some degree of blame for the downfall of the relationship.

    do an analysis of the past relationship, as well as yourself, and find out where you are...instead of carrying that baggage into the next relationships.
     
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    I would say to give yourself time, and not rush back in. Let yourself live a little and you might see that you have been missing some things that you love doing.

    Peace!
     
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    I feel the same way about men, I see men who just walk out of the house and women approach them especially if they are good looking. And yes, men are looking for good women and women are looking for good men. I know what went wrong in the relationship and both of us were to blame. Distance was a factor, we lived too far away and didn't see each other as often as if we would if we lived closer together.
     
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    I am trying to do that but it is hard because I miss him. But I am planning to work more hours and exercise and keep in contact with friends.
     
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    Also, I have a friend that thinks I should go to church, single events and date online or through friends. I don't socialize a lot so mostly I work, go to a few social events with coworkers and that is it. I used to go to church but I work on Sundays so that is out. When I did go to church, I didn't meet anyone. Years ago, there was a man who I met at a college class and he was nice. He saw me at church but he didn't approach because he saw me sitting with a man. Later that day when we were talking on the phone, he said he saw me at church and he asked me who it was and I told him it was my father. So I guess that scared him.
     
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    Don't go looking. Live your life.
     
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    That is a good idea, thank you although I am 49 so I will check out some of the dating websites in my age group.
     
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    True, I have done that in the past and it has only worked when I go looking. I have gone to weddings, out with coworkers', church, done volunteer work, but it is only when I go looking on a dating website is when I meet someone. I don't know why.
     
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