- May 18, 2003
- 27
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My bf and I have been together for a few months but he lives with a family because his ex threw him out. He is a little older than I am, so we are from different generations. I am on the verge of getting my teacher's certification and me and him have had numerous arguments about something that we cannot seem to get around which is after I get my own place (taking care of my parents because they're sick) of whether or not he should come and stay with me. He doesn't have a job, except for working for day labor agencies, and he has argued me a lot by saying that I would be making a lot more money than him and saying that I treat our relationship like a business and not like we love one another. My theory is that if he isn't going to help out or have some type of stable income coming in, then that will be a problem because I shouldn't be stuck with the bills by myself. He tries this reverse BS talking about "If the tables were turned and if you were homeless, I wouldn't care that you didn't have anything and I would take you in" and I said that's nice and all, but I want to make sure I have my own SH** if the tables were turned because i would not make a man I am supposed to be a partner with do everything by himself. he would get mad everytime this discussion comes up and he says things to make me feel bad like I am a selfish person for wanting a man who can pull his own weight. I have been in a situation with an ex years ago where I took him on to live with me and he didn't work or anything and I told my current bf this and he keeps trying to say that I am treating him like my ex. I told him no and that I was young and dumb back then and that I have wised up and know that it's only fair that both parties should bring somethin to the table. Is it selfish to want that? Or should I be the one taking care of yet another man just because I have a job and he doesn't? thanx