Tragically, abusive relationships like theirs are all too common within our communities, but the female spouses within them often stay because they hold onto the naïve notion that the right conditioning or treatment can change the behavior of their abusive partner. Because such denial is not uncommon, some even attribute their abusive behavior to poor childhood experiences, the abused becoming the abuser, while others vainly hope that an occasional prayer will exorcise some of their husband’s many demons. Yet, at some point in this violent relationship, the abused spouse has to realize that the risks of staying are much greater than the risks of leaving if she is to save herself.
Perhaps, she is still with him because she wanted to prove that all of the naysayers were wrong about her husband. Maybe, she feared becoming another failed “Hollywood Marriage” and bearing the stigma associated with it. Whatever the case, she now has to bear the stigma associated with a “Black Eye” and an “*** Whipping” by a drug using abusive husband. Could Bobby be the next Ike Turner?
Perhaps, she is still with him because she wanted to prove that all of the naysayers were wrong about her husband. Maybe, she feared becoming another failed “Hollywood Marriage” and bearing the stigma associated with it. Whatever the case, she now has to bear the stigma associated with a “Black Eye” and an “*** Whipping” by a drug using abusive husband. Could Bobby be the next Ike Turner?