The purpose of this thread is for support to help me see what I may have missed and to set the record straight. Clear Communications, review and assessment of the current shyuation going down. I don’t usually do this and it took a couple hours and still not in perfect format and commentary . Yet, here it is…it took me a little bit to figure out how to do the individual post links and I’ve not the time to fix THAT all up…so sorry…. My bottom line….. I’m open to Listening, Learning and Restoring order AND…cleaning up any ish I’ve added to the pot! It all started in the thread started by Jahari “Is Patriarchy a Bad Thing” http://destee.com/forums/showthread.php?t=61649 My intro into this thread: Post# 41 addressed in direct response to the question My second post # 46 in response to the original poster The OP and I interact for a bit; post # 47, - 50 PurpleMoons enters the discussion @ Post #54 in response to something blkbutterfly41 said: Blkbutterfly41 said: To which SiS PurpleMoons said: At this point…the discussion continues to flow smoothly as indicated by SiS LindaC in post # 53 Brother Jahari and myself continue in post # 55, 56, 57, 62, At this point, SiS PurpleMoons, Brother ru2religious and blkbutterfly41 and conversing and sharing views Post # 71 is when I ask a direct question to blkbutterfly41: She said in reply to PurpleMoons: I said to her: During this time, SiS Astrologer4U is dialoguing with Brother Jahari…all is still peace… Then blkbutterfly41 reply to me…: post #84 I’m noticing how you initially referred to me as “hun”…then it moved to “brother”… I said in post # 85: I said that because of THIS prior interaction WE had Here Moving on…. You came back with: post # 93 This is where the judgments, insinuations and instigation's REALLY began for me. Up to this point, I was clearly “on topic” and simply corrected my gender which I still think you knew. I dropped it after that. No harm no foul….I’m thinking…then… In post # 98, I asked you not to refer to me as “hun”. That was an example of clear communication attempting to let you know a little more about me since you are a newcomer to the site. This type of behavior is typical and healthy in building relationships. To be exact, I said: If you knew more about me, you would know what I’m talking about when I talk about being “RAW” and sensitive to ****..tho..I said stuff in respect of this community. You came back with this in post # What you dont' know is that I apologize "all the time" as well...even here on this board. Additionally, I don’t know what I would be apologizing for or what I would be “owning” yet…insinuating my status as a woman etc… Oh that’s right…you DID edit that , however, I captured the original statements here: post # 100 The only thing that did not “sit well” with me on this thread up to this point was being called “hun” and “brother”. I let you know that in a respectful manner, no attempts to denigrate you in any way…. You came back with this in post # 102 And I replied with this: Here is YOU again: post # 105 In response I said: Telling you again a little more about me… In post # 84 I attempted to refocus back to thread topic YOU came back with this in post # 85: You were still disrespecting calling me “hun” and making judgments and all…smh… I replied: I have no idea where I've disrespected you yet you are full of labels and a lot of other nasty ish for ..... I even went back to try and see what you thought you saw and you came back with more B.S. this was your post... In post # 120 you asked a direct question and in post # 121 I responded in the affirmative… By post # 124 you were at it with SiS Astrologer4U calling her brother Post # 127 I replied to three quotes involving us Sistren and offered a potential solution to you so as to avoid such conflicts in the future. Post # 131 LindaC comes back with a statement and my thoughts now is… “ya’ll” who:?: humph! And you said: I’m trusting this record speaks for itself! Getting the hang of this now... You go on to say in reply to my post # 140 http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614684&postcount=144 I replied with post # 157 http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614746&postcount=157 You in post # 161 http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614779&postcount=161 My reply Post # 166 http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614821&postcount=166 You post # 167 http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614822&postcount=167 Me in post # 168 http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614825&postcount=168 Then I reply to SiS A4U and you jump in with your question here post # 174 http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614859&postcount=174 Post # 176 I’m summarizing trying to overstand where your coming from and exactly what has happened http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614863&postcount=176 In post # 182 I answer you question from Post # 174 http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614899&postcount=182 I made some additional suggestions here http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614925&postcount=186 By post # 193 we’re..you and I are winding down http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614976&postcount=193 You post # 199 http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=614999&postcount=199 It’s still kinda difficult to believe one who has traveled the internet boards (according to you who know some of these guys from other sites) could miss the box..yet…I know it’s possible…no matter Then your last words…I think….to us http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=615116&postcount=210 After all of this taking place between 11/26/07 – 112/1/09 On 12/5/09 I start a conversation entitled “Sex in the Ancient World". Blkbutterfly41 enters the discussion on 12/11/09 with a peaceful, respectful interaction with New Member JackieO. I have consciously avoided conversations with her up to this point. Then the same ole stuff starts again. First the “joking” sideways comments butting in my conversation with Brother DarkSide Magick http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=617716&postcount=36 I respond to you both..and btw..at this point I have already stated my sensitivity to ops…other peoples stuff… http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=617722&postcount=39 As I’m looking at the post which followed…I can see that, yes, I could have blown it off and taken for what it was worth. I think it’s more a case of “first impressions are lasting” fits as it had only been one week. So my bad…I could have done different…my apologies…. One of my pet peeves is our focus on buying more books as opposed to direct sharing those things we have learned. We in a bloody war and loosing. I for one do not have time to read a lot of books. I come on internet discussion boards to discuss and share mostly. I do and have purchased some books recommended by others tho… Most have been the first impression plus my daily grind…. You should also know about me, I don’t “play” a lot unless I’m feeling safe with a person. I don’t know you well enough to play with you. First impression…. Post # 46 is where it went waaay down hill and probably my sensitivity to being ridiculed. When you directed comments about me to DarkSide Magick.. http://destee.com/forums/showpost.php?p=617740&postcount=46 The rest went where it did and now you use my comment in that thread as evidence that some folks get special privileges or something. Just don’t add up to me. Like I said….I could have been lighter in the Sex thread yet I was still cleaning the ish off my glasses from the first thread. Having done a thorough job of it tonite…I can see my ish clearly…for that I apologize. Like cherry blossom said..she and I are still working to build. I did not like the way she came in the house either and I don’t like your approach. Her’s to me, was similar. Come in swinging without taking time to ask questions and get to know people. NO none here is perfect and many squirmishs have kicked off. I have and shall continue to advocate a reduction, rather, throwing out of the tendency to ridicule, judge, label or otherwise attack a person’s character. I’m not happy about having the fun I did in your support thread..yet…I did not appreciate being used as an example for your query. I am not currently a premium member so it does not fit even in that regard. So..I did this, a first for me I believe, cause I wanted to put this to rest. I’ll probably work to avoid you and watch, listen and learn. I have found that it’s not mentally or emotionally safe for me to converse with you…given you tendency towards jokes, blame, judgment and ridicule…all tactics of yes, teens and white folks! I could use even your support in that. Thanks for Listening…. M.E.