I can't believe you still don't get it
Ok, as long as blacks dressed like whites on the job, everything was cool. The moment this sista wore her African attire, the office dress code was changed. It didn't effect the whites, they dress that way, but the blacks could no long where clothing that was ethnic.
And as far as the hair, you mean you don't see the problem?
Like I and others are saying to you, there is an obvious disconnect.
Also you want one definition for what is "acting black", for starters, my points has nothing to do with acting, but rather being who and what you are...black. Also there are multiple definitions, and views for what it means to act black. It can't be taught to you, you just have to be raised in it to know it. I had a co-worker who was raised around whites her whole life, and she had the same disconnect as you. She just couldn't relate to me, or any other black. She had IMO, a white view of the world.
It's not your fault, it's just the way things are.
Peace!
its not that i dont get what your sayin - i see perfectly well that theres a convention of how people should dress and wear there hair in many workplaces and that that convention is based on white views so people turnin up in african print dresses with cornrows or that matter japanese people turnin up in kimonos is gonna be looked on as weird or freakish - its a good example of institutional racism - i get that
now i started down this path cuz you said....
The thing is/was, especially back in past decades, and even now is that white will gleefully accept blacks, only if blacks act, and be white.
so does that mean the way we are acting white is simply by followin there styles of hair and dress - or is there more to it - are we havin to change our behavior in some way or is it just appearance? if so what ways of behavin would you think is white ways that we are copyin?