Khasm13 said:i hear what u are saying riada and once again u've nailed down the problem pretty good...where things start to get a little hazy is in ur solution. if most black women with sons had the means to move out of these neighborhoods i believe they would. a prime example of this is the series 'good times'. florida evans tried her best to move them out of the ghetto, and in hollywood where most things are an illusion, unfortunately this fact is not. i agree with the point a007 made in regard to the positive reinforcements his mother gave him on the daily. this is something every black woman can do with their child...it's just not feasible to think that we can just change our enviroment like that...this is a problem that we are going to have to face one day(our dysfunctionality)...head on...
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Re the mothers leaving the community, the main problem I see is that many of them don't want to leave the community--even if they could. They wouldn't see any reason to do so.
Insofar as positive reinforcements, once again you're talking about a woman who's functioning at a much higher level than a typical young mother. A typical young mother doesn't have anywhere near the vision that the mother of a007 had. A 26-year old mother who has a 10 or 11 year old child, which is a very typical situation, is not someone who's going to have much awareness about anything that's talked about on here.
You probably don't have any idea what many of these young women go through emotionally on a day to day basis. If you get inside their heads, you'll find out that it's a major emotional struggle to get from one day to the next. They may look cute and look like they're all together on the outside, but they not together on the inside. Many of them regard their children as their "friends" because it's their children who keep them company and comforts them when they're sad or lonely or scared.