I was out and this chick came up to me and said hi and what not, I vaguely remembered her. So I asked one of my girl friends if that was so-and-so's child's mother. Now her child's father is an old friend of mine from back in the day. He's 30-something still gang banging, smoking wet, locked up, every time you see him he's high and saying or doing something stupid. I told my friend what the heck was she thinking having a baby with that guy, that must be a disaster....HOT MESS. No black WOMAN in their right mind wants a man who can't hold a job down, in and out of jail, dresses like a hoodlum, can't talk/walk right, high or drunk all the time, has multiple kids mothers, disrespectful, and uneducated....NO WOMAN....hence I said "Woman". The chicks that I know who want these men love drama, because that's what these men will provide. Black WOMEN don't want drama...they want peace of mind. The ones that want thugs don't have respect for themselves, so they already don't expect respect from the thugs. Black WOMEN have respect for themselves and command respect from others....It's expected. There is nothing hotter than an educated, goal-oriented, respectful, loyal, hard working, educated black man....Nothing. I'm sick of hearing black men say that black women only want thugs, because that is not true. You're just going after the wrong females. Or it's not that they want thugs, they just might not want YOU personally.