- Feb 9, 2001
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Brothers Changes, Python and Kente417mojo, thank you for the enlightening opinions as they are most appreciated coming from Black men who I have developed a high regard for.
Brother Kente, I found your comments to be like a splash of cold water in my face. Hmmmm...has me thinking. True, some sisters have issues they need to get past as do some brothers when it comes to this topic.
In the bigger scheme of things racism has done a number on many of us and you're right, if sisters don't like it when brothers date/marry outside of their race, we have to make sure we're not doing anything to contribute to that before we complain.
I'm not a perfect woman, and as a Black woman, I dn't think that I have traits or characteristics that would give Black men reasons for preferring a woman from another race over me. I'm not going to compete with them, I'm simply going to be myself and the best person I can be because that's how it should be.
If a white woman or any other woman gets a jump start ahead of me, then the way I look at it, it wasn't meant for me to begin with. As a spiritual person, I firmly believe that we can draw people to us based on what we pray for and how we treat them. Simply saying that you want a good man and treating men like dawgs, is nothing more than an accident waiting to happen.
We must first be true to ourselves and treat people as we want to be treated. Consistency between what's in our hearts and what we do, is important.
Each time discussion gets deep like this, I always learn something new and helpful. Thank you all for your input.
Queenie
Brother Kente, I found your comments to be like a splash of cold water in my face. Hmmmm...has me thinking. True, some sisters have issues they need to get past as do some brothers when it comes to this topic.
In the bigger scheme of things racism has done a number on many of us and you're right, if sisters don't like it when brothers date/marry outside of their race, we have to make sure we're not doing anything to contribute to that before we complain.
I'm not a perfect woman, and as a Black woman, I dn't think that I have traits or characteristics that would give Black men reasons for preferring a woman from another race over me. I'm not going to compete with them, I'm simply going to be myself and the best person I can be because that's how it should be.
If a white woman or any other woman gets a jump start ahead of me, then the way I look at it, it wasn't meant for me to begin with. As a spiritual person, I firmly believe that we can draw people to us based on what we pray for and how we treat them. Simply saying that you want a good man and treating men like dawgs, is nothing more than an accident waiting to happen.
We must first be true to ourselves and treat people as we want to be treated. Consistency between what's in our hearts and what we do, is important.
Each time discussion gets deep like this, I always learn something new and helpful. Thank you all for your input.
Queenie