Let me say this is my first post (and actually first time being on this forum) and I thought since I'm coming out of a relationship with a black woman the subject would be appropriate here to get other impressions from other women. I can think back to several dating experience I have with black women and I can say all of them had ended up negatively. Of course, I'm one who believes in the philosophy in never allowing one (or several experiences) determine the masses of people. But, I'm starting to think that there may be a pattern forming. Just recently I was involved in a one year relationship with a sister and just recently she broke off the relationship due to some "issues." I use quotation marks for issues because it seems that she had some personal issues she needed to deal with (that and school issues) and eventually broke it off with me. It hurted then and still hurts now but what I've come to reflect upon is the resounding opinion that I constantly hear from other black women. The usual opinion of black men is negative at least, from where I live which is in California and it seems that a lot of Black women nowadays think brothers are not in their right mind. I've heard so many opinions on brothers from not having money (which is a ridiculous reason since generally speaking, since some sisters who make this comment are broke themselves) to not treating a sister. Because it is a subjevtive issue I cannot help but add myself in the equation because for the last few situations I've involved myself with sisters I've been nothing but a gentleman and intellectual. of course I have much more character traits besides what I've listed but, it seems that my personality is not meshing with the sisters i'm involving myself with. In my last relationship my ex-girlfriend liked the fact that I wear jewelry and nice shirts and pants, obviously from this she is into guys who dress flashy. but because I'm a student I didn't always look or dress the best and it seems that she wasn't the only that thought this way. I guess where i'm getting at is I'm very diverse in who i choose to date and for the most part I've dated many Latinas, White, Asian, Hawaiian and others of the rainbow and it seems that from my own experiences I have the most trouble with black women. Not because of strength issues (since not all black women I've encountered were raised in a strong foundation) but because of personality issues. I'm smart, articulate and educated and actually on my way into graduate school for my Ph.D. in Psychology at California University at Berkeley and it seems that I cannot find the sister I need to be that foundation I so long for. I've always thought that in the end despite my curiousity with other cultures I want to be with and marry a black woman. I love my culture and I love what black women offer but the problem is, is that not enough sisters like the nice guy or the intellectual guy. Maybe it has something to do with the age group but it seems from my experiences that the black women I've enocountred all care about looks and money. I know looks and money are important to a certain extent but at the expense of my feelings I think women need to be careful in how they judge a good man. So far, I'm 0-10 with relationshiops with Black women. It's not just women but myself. I've continuously re-evaluated myself and how I could maintain my relationships but its not just me from what others say, it is people I choose. But it just brings me back to the phenonmenon of black women and so my question is, is the nice intelligent black man not appealing to you sisters or what?