Ok I'm going to need some help from the ladies on this one but first let me paint the picture so that I can get the best answer possible from the mothers out there. As you all know we are in the midst of a recession. However, thanks to God and hard work my family has been relatively untouched by it. I work everyday and come home to my family after work. I am currently working towards a Masters degree, don’t drink smoke love God and in general I am a pretty good guy. My wife is also in school and is a fantastic mother and a real cool lady in general. We take our classes all online as we opted not to go to a local campus because of the fact that my wife is also a stay at home mother. I am also working toward purchasing our first home. I’m constantly making phone calls setting up inspections, calling this person, calling that person and coordinating the entire process in general 95% on my own. My wife doesn’t work and hasn’t for probably 15 months so the financial burden is on me to make this happen as well as every other financial responsibility that comes up ( and this is ok with me for now). So now that you have enough background info let me tell you what the problem is. I come home everyday tripping over various items in the floor. The kitchen is always messy. No dinner ready and other areas lacking as well that I don’t really care to get into. I love my wife but I don’t know if I’m not pushing her hard enough or pushing her too hard sometimes. I just know that if I was at home all day, and she was out making the home purchase of a nice new home (bamboo floors, stainless steal appliances, 3 bedrooms, full finished basement, extravagant master bathroom, home gym complete with about 10,000 dollars in equipment and rubber floors, not much yard but everything else is NICE!!!) then I would at least like to think that I would have her son taken care of, dinner ready, and a halfway clean house. Am I asking too much!!!!!!! There are no hidden factors like “well maybe he beats her up” or “maybe he doesn’t talk to her right”. She says I’m GREAT!!! But I think to myself we I must not be if this is all that I’m owed for my services. I’m sooooo bogged down. Today was like the last straw (well not really I love my family and I’m not going anywhere but to work everyday to take care of them), I switched phone companies to the service we are going to use at the new house and I’m too embarrassed to even let the guy into the apartment because it’s so junky. Now let me add this because it’s only fair. I’m not like the neatest person lots of times. I might leave my shoes in the wrong place, or finish a cup and forget to put it up or any other number of little junky habits but if I were home I would pick these things up. Anyway I’ll stop here to keep from rambling too much. Am I wrong for thinking this way?